Best wishes @Louise64 for upcoming surgery. School holidays are almost upon us. I found like others I limited who I told, including at work. Initially only a few close family members were advised in person, then as as I recovered from the initial shock, I was able to tell more people. There are always going to be friends and acquaintances who ask if you are okay - it's up to you who and what you say. Support is essential for you to feel normal and concentrate on taking it day by day. No question is silly and it's okay to cry when you feel overwhelmed.