Hi @Canberramum
I totally agree with @Zoffiel !!
Last night I tried to write something, but now today see this is what I wanted to say!
I have a distant relationship with my immediate family (parents and sister) but all of a sudden they wanted to come to appointments and I knew it would be all about them; they would 'take over', despite me being confident and outgoing, not to mention my knowledge working as a registered nurse.
After days of anxiety, imagining them in the consult room, I had to put my big girl pants on and ring to say, sorry you cannot come. I always rang or emailed with updates after every appointment though. I had one of my daughters and a good, sensible friend come with me to first / important appts, then went on my own.
Honestly, this is one time it truly is all about you. Don't let any 'do gooders' do, or sway you, otherwise!
Your feelings, your mood, your body, your energy levels, your anxiety, your fear, your husband and children, your moving forward etc etc.
Good luck and feel free to vent or write on here anytime- this is a safe place!
xx