I am in shock

Hi @Coco65, I was dx just before Xmas last year and amongst the terror I felt all my thoughts were for my only daughter 15 yrs old . I was straight out with her from day one when the report confirmed cancer the now memories of the tears the flood her face brings tears to me now . I wanted to protect her from this and had no control over it . Fast forward five months I currently have radiation burns been through a mastectomy, then axillary clearance artificial menopause and my daughter couldn't be more happy stable strong and proud of her mummy . She said"mum your not strong , it's what everyone would have to do , but you are an inspiration to everyone' she is my strength. A few weeks back Mother's Day classic she drove me to participate in the walk , I was mid way radiation. You and your family will get through this ❤️

Just a hint @Coco65 - pop an @ in front of someone's name if you want to directly tag them  :)

Thank you Brenda5 I have also suffered depression most of my adult life so I'm struggling with that as well and people telling me not to get upset because that feeds it!! That's exactly what I need to hear!

Welcome to our larger than we'd like it club. It just keeps on hitting women and its got nothing to do with how you live or how you eat or how fit or unfit you are either. You will love the journey kit as it will educate you on whats happening and with your confidence growing, so it will follow on your children will be ok too. I let my husband read the kit and he was very interested too. It did help a lot as thereafter he has come to every appointment with me as support and another set of ears as when you are in shock you tend to miss a lot of what is discussed. I have 2 young 20's sons living at home. One was very concerned and the other was just stunned and said he didnt know how to take it. I think both ended up chatting online with their gaming friends and some who had a mum who had been there with bc before were very supportive. 

Hi @Coco65, Sorry that you're here with us. At least you have now found this site and know that you don't have to be strong, invincible and without fear here. We understand and are all here as a resource and cheer squad for you. Know that there are no silly questions and the amount of experience on here is phenomenal. So welcome lovely, big hug to you. Xx Cath

Primek I can't believe how similar our family stories are! I too have 3 teenage boys and 11 in my family 9 of which are girls. 

@Coco65 when your in the middle of it is overwhelming. I am looking back now and it was less hard than I imagined. Radiation just flew past. Surgery was okay. I think it is so unfamiliar and have no idea what to expect. May I suggest if you have teenagers have snacks on hand. IN my case my son was to pick me up after I had a port. 
Surgery was delayed my son had nothing to eat over several hours. I was getting ready to  be discharged and my son collapsed in the hallway. Long day at work and hadnt eaten. Every one was fussing over him and bringing him round.
What about me? So I know food and teenagers go hand in hand. My son  is much older. best wishes

I was 51 at diagnosis. 3 teenage boys. 1 of 10 children, but I was the second sister to get breast cancer. Mine wasn't detectable by mammogram but I fortunately found a lump while still small. I chose a bilateral mastectomy  (mainly because it wasn't visible on a mammogram a mere 5 weeks prior ) and the fear of an undetected recurrence was greater than losing my breasts. My biopsy was es+pr- Her2+  . You will start to understand these meanings later. It meant chemo for me and a targeted therapy which was planned for 12 months but needed stopping earlier as it was affecting my heart. ..which has now fully recovered. The beginning is a whirlwind and the fear is real. I spent many nights awake worrying and slapping on the happy face during the day so my boys would feel confident I would be okay. But I didn't know for cetain, none if us do. But you will get through treatment and reclaim your life and hopefully,  hopefully we become 1of the 90% cancer free in 5 years . Take care. Kath x

Meh, what choice do I have?