Welcome to our larger than we'd like it club. It just keeps on hitting women and its got nothing to do with how you live or how you eat or how fit or unfit you are either. You will love the journey kit as it will educate you on whats happening and with your confidence growing, so it will follow on your children will be ok too. I let my husband read the kit and he was very interested too. It did help a lot as thereafter he has come to every appointment with me as support and another set of ears as when you are in shock you tend to miss a lot of what is discussed. I have 2 young 20's sons living at home. One was very concerned and the other was just stunned and said he didnt know how to take it. I think both ended up chatting online with their gaming friends and some who had a mum who had been there with bc before were very supportive.