I agree that a good counsellor can be worthwhile for you right now . I also think that you’ve been the rescuer and the lynchpin in your family to this point so it’s natural for you to want to protect everyone . But you can’t protect them all from this.
Once they have the information about your bc your family may well surprise you and be there for you the way you need them to be. I have heard of situations where family have been protected and not advised what is going on and they have been hurt by that . So link in with a professional counsellor, tell family the bc care plan and advise them what you will need from them . They need the opportunity to process the information themselves . Hopefully they will surprise you ( in a good way) . Good luck 😊
