The reality is YOU are not responsible for how people will react or cope with your diagnosis. You have enough sh!t to deal with, without thinking that is your responsibility as well.
I was diagnosed the same week as my sister in law died from cancer. Not breast. But I did withold that information from my brother and nieces and nephews until I had a treatment plan. I went through the funeral with them and helped put together a Xmas 48 hours after her funeral. So I get it how that all weighs heavily on you.
It's hard but better to sit down and just tell them. You might be surprised how they will react. Tell them your treatment plan...how long it will take and what you need from them. You need there support.
It's surprising as providing support and help to others in need often help people fearful of dying, people with depression and possibly even BPD as they suddenly have a purpose....to help you.
Either way...you just need to focus on you and your needs now.
And refer them to professional support if they need it.
Kath x
