how to stay positive

Molly I'm so sorry to hear your story! My first diagnosis my children were a little older but I was on my own, it was terrifying because before you see specialists or treatment plan you are confronted with your worst nightmare and of course your mortality. So incredibly normal! Generally only lumpectomy can give you full accurate pathology together with staging, from there can they know a treatment plan. Hang in there, breathe, it really is baby steps and not looking too far ahead and you absolutely will tackle it at each step! Hugs Melinda xo

Hi Molly,
i know it's hard I have 2 grown up sons 25 & 20 I remarried and have a beautiful 8 year old daughter she is my strength everyday.. my boys and I are very close I have a gorgeous grandson with one on the way I know you feel helpless in the beginning but you WILL find a strength you never knew you had..
we are all here for you xx

Welcome to the site. The other ladies have given you great advice and yes ...we all know those frightening nights waiting for appointments and waiting on results. Yes...treatable and beatable. My niece ....so proud of her, and my inspiration to fight on...at age 30 found an enlarged lymph node...following surgery she was found to have 2 tiny her2+ cancers with 10 positive nodes. 14 years on...she is cancer free. Yes the treatment was tough, but worth it...and her babies are quite grown up now. Take care. Kath x

Hi Molly,
Right now the shock is overwhelming you. I was diagnosed at 40 with 2 young boys and everytime I looked at them I would break down. It took me a few weeks and then I was in fighter mode angry and ready to do whatever I had to. We all have our bad days and we all have to be as positive as possible.
It is good to come on here if you are concerned about something because the drs are good but women that have walked the path are good too.
My mum who doesn't speak very good english and took my diagnosis really hard said to me " Walk with your head up and take each step with courage ". I say that to myself everytime I am struggling.
I wish you the very best
Rita xo

Hi Molly!  I know it is a roller coaster however looks like you're in a better place already with the words treatable and beatable.  
Take care xx

Thanks everyone. It's comforting to know I'm not alone with this diagnosis & what I'm feeling is 'normal'. I had my first consult today & things are moving quickly. Biopsies, scans & tests should hopefully give me a stage by the end of Monday. I know, at least, that I will have a full masectomy on the right, as I have multiple nodules. The rest of my treatment will depend on results. Feeling a little more hopeful that this is treatable & beatable.

Having a  bc diagnosis is a bit like having a toothache (but worse) - your whole head revolves around the discomfort, you can't stop probing the tooth with your tongue, you know what it's like. And you know the only thing that works long term is to go to the dentist!  Which is your next step, as planned, so you are on your way. You sound like the sort of person who can deal with lots of stuff when you are informed, it's the not knowing that is such a worry. Once you know what's happening, what your surgeon is proposing, you can swing all your energy into treatment and getting better. So hard with little ones, but if you can follow the advice everyone here will give you - one step at a time - it really does help. Trying to pre-guess, plan too far ahead just sets up possible problems that may never happen. Stay away from Dr Google, and think how friends and family can help you short term. There are lots of people here (and I am sure elsewhere) who can and will help. You can do it.

Get on to the McGrath nurse in your area now. She will be tons of help navigating your way through something which if you are like me, knew nothing about. http://www.mcgrathfoundation.com.au/OurMission/OurNurses/FindANurse.aspx

Hi @Molly001 if you don't have the "My Journey Kit" yet you can find it here. This is a great resource to have and will help to answer a lot of your questions. We also have a young women's group you may like to join. You have come to a place where the online members and the BCNA team are here to support you every step of the way.