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Kate62
Member
7 years ago

Feeling very overwhelmed

Hi everyone I have been reading some of your comments and feel the support.  I was diagnosed the end of September and it has been a whirlwind since I had a lumpectomy and removal of some lymph nodes last Tuesday 23rd October and got my result back 30th went to the appointment expecting to be told when I needed to start radiation to be sat back on my butt with the news that I needed to have mastectomy of my left breast due to the margins not being good, so today is my op to lose my breast I cried most of yesterday and I’m trying to hold it together as I wait for 11:15am to make my way to the hospital
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  • Kate62's avatar
    Kate62
    Member
    7 years ago
    Thank you everyone it is a comfort to be able to talk with others on a similar journey. 
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    arpie
    Member
    7 years ago
    Gosh, @Kate62  - you've been thru the mill and some - all the best for your surgery today.  

    Let the tears flow - we've all been there 

    Make haste slowly afterwards .... I hope you have good friends & family surrounding you with love & support, doing everything they can for you as you recuperate afterwards.  xxx

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    Zoffiel
    Member
    7 years ago

    Oh Kate, my heart goes out to you. We all hope we will manage to get through this with the minimum of treatment, but it just doesn't always work out that way. It's fine to cry, in fact it is healthy. We are designed to cry under conditions like yours so if you want to bawl your eyes out, do it. You will eventually run out of snot and stop. Ask for a sedative if you want one when you get to the hospital so you aren't sitting around stressing.

    Good luck. It's horrible but it can be done. Marg xx

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    kmakm
    Member
    7 years ago
    Oh Kate I'm so sorry to hear that. It really is a shit of a thing this breast cancer. So many of us find more than the mammograms and ultrasounds ever show, myself included. My tumour turned out to be twice the size the mammogram showed. I had a wide local excision, a re-excision for margins, and in the end (months later after chemo) a double mastectomy and reconstruction.

    The only thing I can say is at this stage focus on the end result, which is a body free of cancer. Mastectomies tend not to be too painful so put that worry out of your head. Are you thinking about reconstruction?

    Take some deep breaths, they help calm the nervous system. And if you want to, tell us a little more about yourself, and your diagnosis.

    Hang in there fellow Kate. K xox
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    Brenda5
    Member
    7 years ago
    I got very angry when I found my results required more surgery. I burned off steam in a 10km walk. I almost didn't make it home as I was still recovering from the first surgery. I went in to hospital for the second op full of fear and trepidation as the first op had made me very sick but it was a completely different scenario the second time. My surgeon instead of stern and cranky was jovial and they even allowed my husband in for  support in pre-op. I came out of surgery, not sick as a dog this time.
    Hoping it all goes great for you too. <3