Great question!
I agree with you 100% @FLClover - it is a real shame that ALL GPs and Breast Cancer Centres & Surgeons don't have a 'pamphlet pack' at their front desk (or in their office) to hand out to patients (men and women) as soon as they are diagnosed with BC.
Jumping onto BCNA straight up & chatting with those who've already been thru it , learning the tips & tricks that make it easier to go thru surgery & recovery - would save a lot of anguish, depression, fear and answer a lot of the questions that fill your head (that you forget to ask the surgeon when you see them!) .... ALL of which, would assist in a better 'attitude' going into surgery and your post op recovery.
It was a friend of mine (a nurse in Qld) who had been diagnosed 3 years previously & suggested that I join BCNA (sadly, she went on to develop mets after her '5 year clear' - and passed away late last year.) .... She was my major mentor in the early days of my detection & diagnosis- for which I am eternally grateful.
I joined BCNA around the same time as I had my surgery (3 months after the lump had been detected.) I wish I'd joined earlier. It is interesting going back to your very first post & just re-reading what you put in it & how others jumped on to help you. I have made firm friends with a lot of those who helped me in the early days & miss the interaction with others who have 'moved on' with their lives & not active on the forum any more. Well done them!