Dear Lisha, I know what you mean. There's an assumption that we should get over it and move on by people who don't understand how debilitating the side effects can be. The fatigue, anxiety and other symptoms often continue.
I spoke to a counsellor at the Cancer Council who mapped out where I was at and then wrote down my concerns. This helped me to focus on one thing at a time and to practise self-compassion which is my new buzz word. She also told me to take up a hobby to get my mind off things. Could you go to see a counsellor as a couple so that he could understand your situation a bit more?
It will get better. It just takes time and some understanding from the people we love. I remember describing myself as broken and invisible at the one year mark. I did the Wellbeing After Cancer program run by the Cancer Council and this helped me to overcome these feelings. Take care x