Breast out, immobilised. How’s the radiation small talk?

I must say that I never come across Florence Nightingale during my chemo, (never had radiation due to other major medical conditions). During my numerous hospital admissions the quality of care has been from one end of the good and bad spectrum to the other. I've crossed swords with two Nurse Ratched's (One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest), and a few really compassionate, professional and caring nurses. In the chemo factory, I felt like a piece of meat on the production line and a mere number. as in "The lady in room two" or bed 18.

Seems oncology is no different too other parts of the health system, all espousing their “dedication to patient centred care”, and “supporting you” blah blah but there are no guarantees. I know many on this site have had good experiences and a woman I met in the waiting room yesterday gave high praise for the team I am finding monosyllabic and robotic. 

I’ve never had radiation but small talk for any procedure takes two. Staff are often busy, they may not mean to treat you as a number but the number of people they are dealing with at any one time can make a difference. Most of my chemo nurses were terrific but not able to chat for any length of time. Also not in a position to talk in anything but general terms about your health/treatment. Humour was the the uniting aspect - cancer ain’t funny but some of the ‘stuff’ around it is wonderfully absurd. Staff find a joke refreshing too. But as @Temple says, radiation is a speedier transaction that can be got through without much chat. Best wishes. 

Quite right, they are busy, and the priority focused on effective treatment. I imagine like many things, it comes down to cost. In order to deliver patient centred personalised service it would need to slow down and take time they don’t have. Which is a shame. 

Most of time we limit our chatting to when we walk you in and out of the room.
Once your set up in position we try not to talk to you because inadvertently this causes movement and we are trying to set you up to the millimetre. If you are chatting to the therapist on your right you might without realising turn your head that way which may cause your shoulder to move, which can turn your torso which undoes the levelling we have just perfected on you. Meaning we have to start again, meaning more time you are in your exposed vulnerable position. 
Also we often take our cues from the patient, as you can imagine we see patients in varying degrees of this disease and sometimes they don't want to chat. Our friendly "how has your morning been?" can be met with a snappy "well I've got to come here how do think I feel". Other times we get to know a patient and they tell us stories of their children and it's a lovely relationship for the 4-6 wks.
I'm sorry your  radiation experience isn't going the way I like to think my patients receive  in my department xx

Hi @Temple I'm one of the ones that said that staff had praise.  They weren't talking to me, they were talking to each other. It was simply them saying things like "perfect" when they'd put me in the right spot.  I just chose to take it as a compliment for me, even though it wasn't intended that way.  It wasn't a conversation, I was fully aware that I wasn't to move at all.  I just let them do their thing and it amused me for them to keep saying "perfect".  So I spoke up and said "thanks" every time they said it.

I keep in mind that they are dealing with very sick people all day every day, it must be tough on them.  So if I can make a little joke or lighten the atmosphere a little, I will.  It helps them, and it helps me. 

I think the way we talk to ourselves and things we tell ourselves really matter.  If we are constantly telling ourselves its a terrible experience then it will be.  I chose not to do that.

Terrific! I’ve felt positively traumatised early on that now it’s been hard to get back on track. I am a feeling more docile and learnt the ropes now. It’s not conducive to conversation and I’m told they are good at what they do so that’s all I need and also now know that it’s not me, it isn’t a place for meaningful dialogue that I’m missing out on somehow. 

@Temple So sorry you have had such a bad experience with your treatment. it is a time when we feel very vulnerable & we feel like our world has been turned upside down so I little "love" can go a long way.
I have had a very different experience through my rad & every other treatment/surgery. I had all mine done privately & I cant speak highly enough for the love, care & support shown to me. When i read posts like yours, i do feel very sorry for you & I feel very blessed & lucky that I have felt nothing but praise & admiration for everyone who has cared for me along the way. There were lots of hugs & I even cried on my last day of rad as the people who cared for me, were now not going to be there for me. I did develop quite a bond with the many who treated me. I am a chatterbox & by the end of my 3 weeks we all knew each others names, families & what we were all doing on the weekends! They even invited me back a few weeks later for a group meeting to discuss any improvements they could do but unfortunately I couldnt go as i had another surgery booked for the day after & i lived in the country.
Again, I feel very sorry for your experience & I hope that you come across some loving, supportive care in the future as it sounds like you deserve it!! Take care. xx

  

Sorry you're having a bad experience with your rads, @Temple - such a shame, as it is quite an intimate relationship that develops over the period of a month or more.  I had a few different staff over the period, but more times than not, I had the same ladies, which was terrific.

Like @Mira  and @Anne65 - my experience was quite comforting and whilst there isn't any chatting once on the table, everyone was very friendly and chatty upon arriving & before leaving!  They even asked my preferred music on my first day & always made sure they had 60s-90s rock playing for me!  They even remembered personal details that we'd discussed previously too .... I was amazed, given the numbers of people that they must see.

I did my best to get 'into the position' correctly every time .... I made it into a bit of a game, really!   They would say "Just wriggle over here a tad" and I would.  They were very gentle with me - lots of 'stroking' and gentle pushing to get me into the 'zone'.

Like @Anne65  - I also cried on my final session - it was whilst sitting in the change room that it dawned on me .... they had become my 'security blanket' more than any of my other experiences since being diagnosed (other than my wonderful GP who found my lumps initially.)  So it didn't look very professional, with me being face down, with a snotty, running nose, trying not to sniffle & move from position!! And I got lots of hugs when I left.

Being rural, I was lucky & was staying on the hospital grounds for the month as well, at the Cancer Lodge - so just had a 3 minute walk to & from the department every morning or afternoon - so no need to drive anywhere.

As @JoeyLiz (who is a radiologist) says - it is really only the 'before & after' where chatting can go on .. and they take their cue from their patients.

I hope the rest of your rads becomes 'easier' for you as you continue.    Take care  xx

@Temple that's a great idea to take a sleep mask!  I wish I'd thought of it.   Ask them to put on some meditation or relaxation music while you're there, and then lie down throw your mask on and tell them to wake you up when they're done.  Let them do all the work while you have a bit of relaxation time.