SURPRIZE

FranP
FranP Member Posts: 396 ✭
edited January 2014 in Day to day

Hi all well it has been a mega loong time since i was on here, some of talk with me on face book so you know whats been happening , i guess, well i sorta went into a biiig heap when my friend Heather died, it was just all to much for me and still hurts when i think of what she went through,

I just couldnt cope with anything and we had a two month break around Australia and boy did that help. 

as well as Heather we lost Sam, and Amanda plus a can-care young lady here in mansfield Jenny only in their early 40's . ,so all that and a few can-care issue took their toll and i was'nt well very depressed and hating the world. but I am back and am now pacing myself more. I was always able to leave work at the door when i worked in the nursing homes and up until my friend Heather managed to do that with can-care as well , it was just all to raw with her it was like loosing part of me, which it is still like but i am drawing strength from that now. 

I am back and want to get back into helping for B.C.N.A and we have a few things planned for this year. i hope everyone is keeping well and my love to all and thanks to those who have been a shoulder for me. xxx fran 

 

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  • Melg
    Melg Member Posts: 174 ✭
    edited March 2015
    Hi Fran
    Welcome back
    So sorry to read of your losses. Glad you were able to take some time out to grieve for the loss of your friends and hopefully find support and the strength to deal with your challenges
    Look forward to reading lots from you
    Mel xx
  • Melg
    Melg Member Posts: 174 ✭
    edited March 2015
    Hi Fran
    Welcome back
    So sorry to read of your losses. Glad you were able to take some time out to grieve for the loss of your friends and hopefully find support and the strength to deal with your challenges
    Look forward to reading lots from you
    Mel xx
  • FranP
    FranP Member Posts: 396 ✭
    edited March 2015

    Hi Leonie , good to keep catching up. here and on fb, yeah it is so hard to except when some when close dies i guess we both know hey. and i still have good and bad days, being with her most days to the end in the last two months of her life was physically and mentally emotionally draining, and i ended in a heap. we were friends for a long long time even though we had our disagreement s were always there in times of need . i did her ulogy about our friendship and that was hard too , but i am glad i did. i miss her awfully, but every butterfly i see i think of her and we had so many funny butterfly incedents on our holiday, I HOPE YOU ARE ALSO COPING BETTER. x For a while i felt so guilty that i was here and she wasnt but she told me she was so glad i was doing okay and that i was to do everything twice now. so I am trying to , and i am taking her strength on board to keep up the fight . cancer sucks and is taking to many wonderful people . iam stopping now otherwise will blubber again ha ha . xxx fran

  • mgndam1603
    mgndam1603 Member Posts: 753 ✭
    edited March 2015

    Reading your post bought tears to my eyes, loosing your friend must have been so hard, I can't imagine my life without my bestie.

    It was good that you managed the time out, the trip away and the chance to regroup yourself.

    Take care and keep moving forward

    Sending hugs

    Donna

  • Leonie Moore
    Leonie Moore Member Posts: 1,470 ✭
    edited March 2015

    Hi Fran, Good on you for doing the Eulogy.  I spoke as part of the Eulogy of my friend as well.  I think it is a very good healing process.  I am also doing a photo board for her family of all the funny times we spent together.  My friend and I first met at a Queensland Cancer Council get-to-gether when we were first diagnosed back in 2006.  We became very close:  establishing the dragonboat club, actively participating in the local Cancer Support Group, both trained as BCNA Community Liasons, loads of fundraising and guest speaking gigs together, out there in the media, travelling to BCNA forums across the State, attending many BCNA Summits and Conferences together and also representing others and bringing back information from Queensland Cancer Council workshops.  We had a lot of fun inbetween our bc challenges.  We found each other through bc however we had a very dense friendship in the 7 years of friendship.  I now find comfort in having a long distance friendship with my friend's only sister who lives across the other side of Australia. XLeonie

  • FranP
    FranP Member Posts: 396 ✭
    edited March 2015

    thanks for the kind words and support donna yes it has been very hard but i know Heather would be telling me to suck it up and get on with it girl. so i will i can hear her often telling me to stop feeling down .  she was such a brave brave woman. she had ovarian cancer and tried just about every chemo radiation natural treatment but i guess it wasnt meant to be, 

  • FranP
    FranP Member Posts: 396 ✭
    edited March 2015

    thanks for the kind words and support donna yes it has been very hard but i know Heather would be telling me to suck it up and get on with it girl. so i will i can hear her often telling me to stop feeling down .  she was such a brave brave woman. she had ovarian cancer and tried just about every chemo radiation natural treatment but i guess it wasnt meant to be, 

  • FranP
    FranP Member Posts: 396 ✭
    edited March 2015

    thanks donna i am doing allot better now. have good and bad days but thats normal how are you

     

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