2013 what a year!!

terrymoore
terrymoore Member Posts: 52
edited July 2013 in Day to day

This year 2013!!!! Agh ..its been awful for nearly every person I know or people I know of through family or friends. So hard so sad!! Its touched everyone so deeply, whether it be cancer or death or job losses, sickness, relationship breakups, freuds....its just been a hard slog.

Why you ask yourself all the time...why so much all at once!! Is it because 13 is unlucky? Is it because weve all had it far too good and this year is payback time?? who knows! The little bits of happiness I see are really accentuated in amongst all the hardship..you know someones had a baby someones had an important anniversary or birthday. Its what keeps me going personally.

Little acts of kindness some other time may have gone unnoticed but this year wow !! they mean so much. I know personally I got to the stage where I took so much for granted and just skimmed along ..busy being busy !! you know when you ask someone something and they say OH Im so busy th...is week or month or year lolol its life we all do it lol.

I know one thing this year has taught me ..take the time before its too late.... do the GUNNAS while you can...dont wait !! Ive learnt be kindly to all people but embrace the ones who have been there for you. Try with all your heart to give back what you have recieved, however you can. Those little acts of kindness stay with me and when Im so down in my private moments I remember them, and I think they will always stay with me.

Again I say 2014 will be a great year. Im hoping so for my family and friends at least. I see big changes in my life anyway. They are already happening, some through my own choice, some I cannot control. So New Years Eve this year is going to be a HUGE thing for me. and yes its 5 in the morning and I cant sleep..its the time I usually start blithering online lolol...

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  • Mich x
    Mich x Member Posts: 1,530
    edited March 2015
    Hey TerryI am soooo with  you girlfriend.  It has been a real crappy year forme and everyone around me as well.  Number 13 is my lucky number and I was soooo looking forward to this year but it hasn't gone to plan at all.It is so important for us to find those special lil things in life, grab hold really really tight, don't let go and run with them.I know we shouldn't be wishing our lives away but I am going to have a second go and wish for a great New Years Eve cause the last one was absolutely crap crap crap for me in that I didn't even want to know about the new year BUT!!!!!!! 2014 is going to be "THE YEAR" for everyone.  Lets run with that one hey??Thanks for a great post and for sharing it with us.Lots of love always, Mich xoxoxo
  • Mich x
    Mich x Member Posts: 1,530
    edited March 2015
    Hey TerryI am soooo with  you girlfriend.  It has been a real crappy year forme and everyone around me as well.  Number 13 is my lucky number and I was soooo looking forward to this year but it hasn't gone to plan at all.It is so important for us to find those special lil things in life, grab hold really really tight, don't let go and run with them.I know we shouldn't be wishing our lives away but I am going to have a second go and wish for a great New Years Eve cause the last one was absolutely crap crap crap for me in that I didn't even want to know about the new year BUT!!!!!!! 2014 is going to be "THE YEAR" for everyone.  Lets run with that one hey??Thanks for a great post and for sharing it with us.Lots of love always, Mich xoxoxo
  • NaturalBel
    NaturalBel Member Posts: 542
    edited March 2015

    I remember a time when I had an extreme run of bad luck that cost me financially, from the first car I owned, which I rolled, while baby sitting, through to 4 accidents in cars later.  My confidence went down hill (SO DID MY BANK) and it almost seemed that people were backing into me, or driving into me,  they werent all my fault.  I had a run of bad relationships too, so I found my life seemed to go around in circles.  

    Funnily, I have drawn from those years of experiences ( years of bad luck)  and I did learn from that time.  I really felt the world was against me and nothing went right for me , I was drawing  bad luck to me like flies to a bin.  It took me quite some time to bring myself out of that (from 19 to 33)  mind set of how unlucky I was.  For me I learnt eventually that only I could change how I was feeling, that there was always rotten stuff going on, it was only what I was chosing to focus on that changed the outcome.

    I read a lot of books that many people said were rubbish, but the tools I have today are as follows:  dont look for trouble, it always out there.  Focus on the good stuff instead.  When you find youre sad, only give myself a couple of days to cry and feel low.  The longer I felt sorry for myself, the sorrier I became.  If still not ok, read another book.  (smiling).

    With Cancer - I have learnt how great Counsellors are.

    As my dear ol Dad says to me at 63 years of age: "I dont know whats going on love, all my friends are falling off the perch, and all our conversations are about our medical problems!"  He is a funny bugga !  

    I liked my thought the other day.  We all look out our windows, but our emotions depend on our view.  (yep I made that up).

    I totally understand how you feel, and of course I say all of this on a good day !  hahahaha (ask me again on a bad one).  hahahaha. Love Bel

  • NaturalBel
    NaturalBel Member Posts: 542
    edited March 2015

    I remember a time when I had an extreme run of bad luck that cost me financially, from the first car I owned, which I rolled, while baby sitting, through to 4 accidents in cars later.  My confidence went down hill (SO DID MY BANK) and it almost seemed that people were backing into me, or driving into me,  they werent all my fault.  I had a run of bad relationships too, so I found my life seemed to go around in circles.  

    Funnily, I have drawn from those years of experiences ( years of bad luck)  and I did learn from that time.  I really felt the world was against me and nothing went right for me , I was drawing  bad luck to me like flies to a bin.  It took me quite some time to bring myself out of that (from 19 to 33)  mind set of how unlucky I was.  For me I learnt eventually that only I could change how I was feeling, that there was always rotten stuff going on, it was only what I was chosing to focus on that changed the outcome.

    I read a lot of books that many people said were rubbish, but the tools I have today are as follows:  dont look for trouble, it always out there.  Focus on the good stuff instead.  When you find youre sad, only give myself a couple of days to cry and feel low.  The longer I felt sorry for myself, the sorrier I became.  If still not ok, read another book.  (smiling).

    With Cancer - I have learnt how great Counsellors are.

    As my dear ol Dad says to me at 63 years of age: "I dont know whats going on love, all my friends are falling off the perch, and all our conversations are about our medical problems!"  He is a funny bugga !  

    I liked my thought the other day.  We all look out our windows, but our emotions depend on our view.  (yep I made that up).

    I totally understand how you feel, and of course I say all of this on a good day !  hahahaha (ask me again on a bad one).  hahahaha. Love Bel