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Sharonb58Sharonb58 Member Posts: 19
Hi everyone, 


  • Cath62Cath62 Brisbane Member Posts: 787
    HI @Sharonb58, your headline says overwhelmed.

    I am guessing you have a diagnosis. It is very overwhelming at the start of a diagnosis. I cried for 2 weeks when I got mine. That was 30 April 2020. I had surgery, chemo and radium which finished by November 2020. I feel good now.

    Take it one day at a time, step by step. Keep busy so you are focused on some other things, if you can. Big breaths, muster support around you. Take care of you before all else.

    If could tell us something about your situation maybe the wonderful people here can help you. Big hugs 
  • Sharonb58Sharonb58 Member Posts: 19
    Thank you  , I feel this would be normal but I feel a wreck ! Thanks for your advice . My cancer is triple negative but I am so new to this that I don't understand any of it . I don't think I heard a word after cancer !
    Looks like there is lots of support out there 💗
  • iserbrowniserbrown Regional VictoriaMember Posts: 5,033
    Hi @Sharonb58

    This link takes you to the BCNA website - a wealth of information and also gives an explanation of Triple Neg

    Deep breaths
    Take care

    Triple negative breast cancer | Breast Cancer Network Australia | TCNM (bcna.org.au)
  • Sharonb58Sharonb58 Member Posts: 19
    Thank you , that what I keep forgetting (to breathe) !
    Great information 🙏💓
  • AfraserAfraser MelbourneMember Posts: 3,889
    Hi @Sharonb58

    Breast cancer is common but it’s not normal! Being confused at the beginning is normal as it’s like learning a whole new language when you are overtired and not motivated. Take someone you know and trust to medical appointments if you can, they’ll hear and remember more than you at first. Remember that many people recover, many people never have cancer again. Do what you need to do, there’s no requirement to act or react in specific ways. Most of all, take one step forward at a time. None of us, cancer or no cancer, can go back in time, we go forward. Always. Just now, a few months ahead can seem too hard to think about, so don’t as far as possible. Your goal is tomorrow, then the next tomorrow. It’s surprising how the tomorrows add up. Best wishes for your treatment.
  • Sharonb58Sharonb58 Member Posts: 19
    Thank you for your comforting advice 💓 what you said really makes sense to me , one day at a time ... the big picture is making me overthink.  My sister has come to my appointments so far and that has made a huge difference. 
    Thank you 🙏💓

  • LocksleyLocksley Macedon Ranges, VictoriaMember Posts: 796
    Hi @Sharonb58 sorry to see you here in the club no-one wants to join.  Just take it one day at a time.  That's good you have your sister to go with you at appointments.  Be kind to yourself.   You will get through this.  Sending you hugs.
  • Sharonb58Sharonb58 Member Posts: 19
    Thats for sure !
    I'm glad breast care nurse sent me this link , it's very comforting being able to reach out and feel supported. 
    Thank you for your advice 💓🙏
  • AllyJayAllyJay Member Posts: 870
    Remember this golden oldie...."How do you eat an elephant?"....answer...one bite at a time. As others have already said..no cancer is normal...you don't just have a minor illness, but you do only have to deal with your treatment one day at a time. Sometimes one hour at a time...but you'll get there in the end and we'll be here to cheer you on from the sidelines.
  • Sharonb58Sharonb58 Member Posts: 19
    It seems to be such an important message . Thanks you , having a few kind words has brightened my day 💗 . Thank you for your lovely words of support 💗
  • MazbethMazbeth BrisbaneMember Posts: 192
    Hi @Sharonb58, this is the hardest bit - just trying to make sense of it all and to learn the ways of what seems like a parallel universe. As everyone here has said, one day at a time, one hour at a time. Try not to get ahead of yourself and please try not to go down into the google rabbit hole - often the information is outdated and not from reliable sources. We are all here for you and you will move through this time. Try to keep busy with anything that brings you happiness - walks, reading, TV. Sending you hugs and cheering you on. X
  • Sharonb58Sharonb58 Member Posts: 19
    Oh bless you , the support from the women on here is heart-warming.  I'm glad I jumped on yesterday!
    I've avoided Dr Google, I've only been on this website and so glad of it , scary enough without getting bad info ! 
    I just need to get it in my head the breakdown as it definitely seems to be what got you guys through . I really appreciate all your advice and support . 💕💕💕

  • MicheleRMicheleR South AustraliaMember Posts: 341
    Hi @Sharonb58,

    Hugs for you.

  • AbbydogAbbydog Adelaide, South AustraliaMember Posts: 305
    edited July 2021
    Dear Sharonb58,
    Hang in there, it may not all be bad.
    I'm here to say it is possible to do the lot with only some side effects.
    Last year I had Mastectomy with axillary clearance (3 positive lymph nodes) Stage 2, Grade 3
    Hormone sensitive breast cancer.
    I then had EC x4, then Paclitaxol x 12, Radiotherapy 5 weeks and on Letrazole tablets now for 5-10 yrs.
    I was very fortunate.
    I also used the Cold Cap, and did not lose all of my hair, a little thinning.
    Keep an open mind, ask lots of questions, repeat them if you need or forget.
    Write questions down as you think of them.
    Do you know which treatments you need yet?
    All the best.

  • Sharonb58Sharonb58 Member Posts: 19
    Thank you for your information and I hope you are well 💖
    I haven't seen any specialists yet , live in town with long waiting lists so I guess that's why I am loosing my mind ! 
    Breast care nurse thinks they will try chemo first but that has been the only snippet of information on hanging on at them moment. 
    Hopefully this week brings more calm to my mind 
    Thank you for you advice and encouraging words 💕
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