My husbands lumps

Giovanna_BCNA

Posted on behalf of @Digger55

"My husband's lumps"

My husband he has some fatty lumps in lots of various places

Lipomas- just harmless little fatty lumps- nothing outrageous

And when we found one in his breast… we did pull some faces

But thought it's just another one of his Lipoma cases.

Then surgery to fix his torn shoulder earlier this year

And 10 days later he felt some pain- not in his rear

It was pain in his ribs- “pneumonia” we hear

But not only did he have pneumonia- we had something else to fear.

Yes he had cracked his ribs, but the breast lump was a concern

As well as other spots in his bones- the report was very stern

Then with scans and blood tests we would unfortunately go on to learn

That he has metastatic breast cancer- he nearly had a turn

Our life together prior to this was something we would yearn.

I know he is a special man and I am a very luck wife

There’s nothing he can’t fix and build- he enjoyed this in his life

But now 3 months from when we heard all this strife,

He is limited in what he can do- 

To treatment, medications, blood tests and scans and trouble going to the loo

Everything to do with breast cancer is pink

Men do get breast cancer, only one percent I think

we do hope his primary and mets will eventually shrink

so onward with more treatment and tests and ribs that clunk and clink

hopefully soon we will get good news and celebrate with a drink

He tells me he loves me and that I am his rock

This journey is not one we would chose- if only we could turn back the clock

His breast cancer diagnosis certainly did come as a shock

Tis early days with treatments and tests, and please don’t take this as a mock 

But he thinks he has a woman’s disease and that he needs to wear a frock.

Jwrenn

Best wishes @Digger55

ddon

My heart hurts for you both. And can I say I loved your poem in spite of the gravity of what you are saying and the sorrow behind it. Best wishes for the treatment ahead and we understand xx

Dory65

Best wishes from me too.

primek

@Digger55 we bring up time and again how men are left out of breast cancer promotion and the sea of  pink does make them feel so excluded. I hope all goes well with treatment and his quality of life improves again. 

arpie

I am so sorry to hear this diagnosis of your husband @Digger55 - you sound like a great team - and together you'll jump the hurdles.  Hopefully the meds will control the mets & you WILL have good times again - and that drink. xx

Look forward to the pic in a frock!   

Take care & ask away with any questions that you both  may have as we have a wealth of knowledge on the site. 
All the best xx

Silba

I am sorry to hear about what your husband is going thru, yes there is little acknowledgment  for the males in his situation , but he has you , just like I have my husband , the best is to have a rock to lean on and a partner who cares .
  Feel free to ask any questions we have all been thru  all the treatments in various shapes and forms , and there is a few guys on here that will be happy to help .

 All the best to both of you , 

Dory65

Hi @Digger55,
This is a gender neutral support group for anyone diagnosed with BC. It's been very helpful for me and I hope you and your husband keep in touch and feel free to just vent or ask anything, like the rest of us here. All the best. x

Tinks

@Digger55, knockout poem! 

But so sorry to hear what has happened. This is an amazing forum, touch base at any time,it doesn’t matter how big or small, there is a whole gang here to help!!

lots of love Tinks xx