Distraught and confused

srichard
srichard Member Posts: 19
edited July 2011 in General discussion

Recently I as one may expect wished well wishes to someone going through cancer surgey, chemo and radio.

Yet my typed words were met with    scheptisicm and almost sarcasm by the recipent who I have never ever met in person. I felt immediately disconnected and like I was in a contest for popularity among posters(mostly women and small talk (yeas take a holiday , kick butt  the like kind of usual stuff I grant you that) in a well wishes thread.

Hey! after all my wife is counting her blessings for surviving cancer four times and staing alive after all her surgeries and suffering in silence (my wife is not in a popularity contest nor a celebrity nor she is proud of her record ) yet this lady choses to ignore my wife well wishes saying she does not believe in prayers it is like a kick  in the pants to me and even worse for my wife but I chose to to tell her that as she would feel hurt because it would have made her very upset as she is very emational  and in a fragile state of mind.

I wonder if this lady could have been more tactful in handling that situation rather than dismissing our well wishes I or we did not mean to interupt her fun nor meddle into her personal affairs.but it made me upset after all we are here in the same plain level field some worse that others but here anyway. I myself as a carer have been supportive of my wife 100% and I do not regret that for a second.

My question: Was I wrong in Intervening and wishing well and ask that person to pray for her life as much as we do for our own salvation and keep us free from this dreaded disease?

 

 

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  • Diamondgirl
    Diamondgirl Member Posts: 3
    edited March 2015

    You didn't do wrong but it is easy to forget that at this time the lady was I imagine feeling very stressed and people do react differently at times like this.  Don't let this one negative stop you being the caring people you are.

     

    cheers Sheila

  • Leonie Moore
    Leonie Moore Member Posts: 1,470 ✭
    edited March 2015

    Oh what a sad lonely person she must be.  Keep up your caring- for the one person there are 100's who will be appreciative of your kind thoughts. I used to wonder about people who reacted strangely to kindness now I just move on and look after others. XLeonie

  • srichard
    srichard Member Posts: 19
    edited March 2015

    Not it wasn't a specialised boardotherwise I would understand the reasons

    Well as leonie says move forwad and forget about it

  • srichard
    srichard Member Posts: 19
    edited March 2015

    let's go bygone be bygone

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