Big changes ahead!
He handed me a book as I walked out 'A guide for women with early breast cancer' I nearly threw it back but I thought no....I need to be informed.
In the hours that followed the emotions were a crazy, scary roller coaster. I never thought why me, I thought my life is crazy busy now - how on earth am I going to tackle cancer and care for my kids.
I did not open that horrible cancer book I started thinking how I'd tell my parents let alone my friends & kids. My husband held my hand and said he would call everyone - he understands me and us.
Our family is very private and I did not want having cancer to become gossip. So we worked as a team for next few days calling people making sure no one was alone when we told them so they had support too. Then I opened that book. It is an amazing book full of scary home truth about what I will endure, it also is the reason I know I will kick cancer arse.
Life will go on, I will live to raise my children this challenge & change is just 1 year of ups & downs it will be hard & I will want to give up but I know those around me will be there to remind me this is temporary I will fight till I am cancer free then I will be the mother who raises her 4 kids stronger & healthier
Early breast cancer - T1N0
On 22nd November 2014 I will undergo a double mastectomy it will the beginning of my journey....
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You're not one for procrastinating i'll give you that! This blog is a great idea, it will help all of us concerned people keep up to date with your progress and allow us to not hound you constantly for an update.
One part of your first blog that amazes me is how you write "Daniel and I rang our friends and family, making sure they had someone close to them there when they recieved the news".I mean how much more selfless can you get?
You constantly find ways to make sure the people you care about come first too, a very special quality that I know I admire about you.
Keep on swimming, thats all you can do. We will all be there to throw you floaties and noodles when you need them.
You and Daniel are in my thoughts always. ( not in a creepy way haha) xxx look forward to reading your next post.
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Living in the now has a whole new meaning, newly diagnosed, I keep telling myself I will be fine, like you will be too.
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I found it hard telling my loved ones about my diagnosis earlier this year especially my children. Whilst my primary school aged children have had information overload and thus are having their own struggles their councellor has told me that I did the best thing for them giving them too much information rather than not enough. Each of your children will respond differently, my 10 yr old wanted to go straight into councelling and get help immediately after being told of my diagnosis. My 6 yr old has only just started needing councelling now 6 months later. Both are happy go lucky children generally but when it comes to me they are both very clingy, my 6 yr old more so. As for my baby, he was just 6 months old when I was diagnosed so I'm hoping he won't suffer at all from the experience.
My reason for explaining all that ^^^^^^ to you is so that you & your hubby can monitor your children and be aware that all 4 of your children will react differently to the news. It may happen as soon as you speak to them or it may happen 6 or more months down the track.
Good luck with your surgery. From one mumma to another I wish you a speedy recovery so that you can spend more valuable time with your kids. xxx
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I found it hard telling my loved ones about my diagnosis earlier this year especially my children. Whilst my primary school aged children have had information overload and thus are having their own struggles their councellor has told me that I did the best thing for them giving them too much information rather than not enough. Each of your children will respond differently, my 10 yr old wanted to go straight into councelling and get help immediately after being told of my diagnosis. My 6 yr old has only just started needing councelling now 6 months later. Both are happy go lucky children generally but when it comes to me they are both very clingy, my 6 yr old more so. As for my baby, he was just 6 months old when I was diagnosed so I'm hoping he won't suffer at all from the experience.
My reason for explaining all that ^^^^^^ to you is so that you & your hubby can monitor your children and be aware that all 4 of your children will react differently to the news. It may happen as soon as you speak to them or it may happen 6 or more months down the track.
Good luck with your surgery. From one mumma to another I wish you a speedy recovery so that you can spend more valuable time with your kids. xxx
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Thank Narelle, our baby is nearly 5 months im so glad he is soo little..
The school age 7yr old is already up & down, we have contacted a counceller so if wants to go we are ready.
We took the same approach as you, I figured honest was best. She took it fairly well, she asked many questions.
I had to laugh today as we took her to school she patted my boobs and said they wont be like that tomorrow mum they be hard water balloons. So honest yet so true. I explained the expander implants are like water balloons. It was fact she simply stated the truth, i looked at her and thought life is so much bigger than the importance of my boobs..
The two toddlers are very up and down, we just go with there moods.
Thank you for the reminder that us as parents the ones who need to watch them as we know them best.
I hope your journey has had many beautiful moments with your precious kids0
