hi @Ballerina33
like you, I have mbc and was in a huge quandray when the question of surgery was raised
my oncologist was in two minds about surgery as, as they say, there is no evidence to suggest that it will extend your life. Such a different perspective to what we all expect to do - get diagnosed, get surgery, have chemo and move on.
My bc surgeon was very adamant about having the surgery, so that is what I had in the end. It was also during covid so the surgery was not done immediately.
Eventually had the surgery - mastectomy + implant - done. I found it extremely an emotionally difficult decision and it took about 6 months to feel back to normal again, but now I don't really think about it too much.
The BCNA private group 'Choosing breast reconstruction' is a wonderful space to gleen information, I also looked at a few websites and FB pages. There was a good website which I will find and send to you. I read lots (especially medical based journals & papers) and then made the best decision that I could with the advice that I had.
It is a very personal decision. Whatever you decide will be the best for you.
PS have you listened to "what you don't know until you do" podcast on bcna? It is excellent
all the best
xx
