Hi @Etta. I was also recently (1May this year) diagnosed with liver & bone mets. My spine and hips are riddled with the little buggers. I was honestly shocked as I was given the all clear by my oncologist in Feb! There were no indicators at all that I was in such a bad state, although I was feeling inexplicably unwell and had terrible back pain. I can't recall how many times I went to my doctor trying to figure out what the hell was wrong with me - I just wasn't myself.
I started chemo and had my first radiotherapy treatment within a week of being diagnosed. My liver is now clear, pain levels have improved no end and I feel so so much better than I did even 2 months ago.
I'm begin my 6th round of chemo next week - I'm on nab-Paclitaxel. I've really not been sick at all from it, other than high temperatures in the 4th month and feeling icky a few days after treatment. This drug is so much easier to handle than the chemo I was on in 2014 when I was first diagnosed with breast cancer. I do get tired but my energy levels have actually improved! I feel so so much better than I did when I was diagnosed and I believe I am really on the mend. I'm often being told by friends and family how much better I'm looking.
The efficacy of chemo drugs keeps improving and the side effects are getting less. There are support drugs if you need them to help you get through if you do decide to go down the treatment path.
I urge you to talk to your oncologist and other women who have taken the treatment option to be sure you have all the information available to make an informed decision.
We we are so terribly unlucky to get this disease. It's a total shit but we can keep on living good lives. Have you read 'Messages of hope and inspiration for women living with secondary breast cancer'?
https://www.bcna.org.au/media/2474/messages-of-hope-and-inspiration-brochure.pdf It really helped me, especially in the first week of grappling with my diagnosis. I re-read some of the stories from time to time as they are truly inspirational
Sending you healing hugs and wish your all the very best support in your decision making process. jena