Hi Jacqui64,
I responded to your other post about Kisqali but thought I'd pop in here to let you know a little about myself which should help a little as I know how much comfort I took from the ladies in this group! I was diagnosed at the end of 2018 at 40, after having early breast cancer in 2016. I was diagnosed stage 4 with bone mets and was lucky that I kept saying I felt a little unwell, like constant nausea, almost like a hangover or morning sickness. That was literally my only symptoms. I was diagnosed just before xmas, & was convinced my life would be over and I'd be organising a funeral and people to care for my 2 teens before the following xmas! Happy to say that nearly 2 years down the track, I'm still working part time(haven't been full time since before kids), am a single mum to 2 very busy teens who I ferry around constantly and am generally doing really well. Haven't really used this year, so I'm not counting myself as ageing this year, as I'm in lockdown metro melb.
Yes, it is totally shit and I do have some really shitty days where I just want to crawl up under the doona and not come out, but those days are very few and far between now and I just get on with living the best life I can for the sake of myself and my kids as well as my extended family and friends who are my biggest supporters. The thing that I've found the hardest is accepting help, but I am learning to accept it when I need it and say yes to things when offered. I'm also better at saying no to things if I'm tired or it doesn't interest me enough to give up time with my kids or something. This might sound selfish, but if I'm going to be tired after attending something that I don't really want to go to, and that in turn affects my kids, I just don't do it!! Others will probably be able to explain that more eloquently than me, and yes it is late at night so probably not my best time to be typing.
Sending you much love, and yes there are many of us living well with mets!! Feel free to shoot me any questions, happy to help any way I can!!!
