Mum recently diagnosed
Hey all, I've joined this forum in the hopes of connecting with others. My mum is 69, diagnosed with breast cancer 2 months ago and now has been diagnosed with metastatic BC in spine and possib...
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Hey all,
It's been quite some time since i checked in. Mum had a couple of different types of IV chemo, the last one being gemcitabine and it made her incredibly ill and didn't do a thing for her cancer marker. In 8 weeks it went from 220 to 2700. I'm not really sure what those numbers mean but mum has decided to stop all treatment and will be meeting with a palliative care team in December.
I knew this day would come i guess i just thought it wouldnt be so soon.
We are now getting her affairs in order and I'm trying to be there for her as much as possible.
She seems to be up and down emotionally which is totally understandable. But shes a very stoic woman and hasnt cried or anything (shes not the type to lean on someone) more of a factual, well this is happening type.
I can sense shes feeling guilt and probably regret just in the way she had said some things and in usual mum fashion when i offer to do things for her she asks me why I'm doing it 🤣 to help you silly. Shes the most stubborn, independent woman I've ever known and i take after her in that way and I made sure i told her how much i admire her "i don't need no man to do anything for me" attitude, shes so headstrong and we have butted heads 1000s of times over the years for it. I wouldnt have it any other way. I mean that in an endearing way.
I know when the time comes its going to break my heart but as long as she gets to go out peacefully and is as comfortable as possible thats all that matters to me.
Ive also been very careful to try and not mother her too much because she is so independent but i do constantly remind her that I'm here and i will do whatever she needs help with.
Yeah i don't really know what that whole post was about. Just a info dump/diary entry i guess.
I dont know how much time mum has left but i do think this xmas will be her last so i will make sure she gets a garlic seafood lunch, with some baileys on ice and a good book to read (all of her favourite things)
I hope everyone here is doing as well as can be expected.
It's been quite some time since i checked in. Mum had a couple of different types of IV chemo, the last one being gemcitabine and it made her incredibly ill and didn't do a thing for her cancer marker. In 8 weeks it went from 220 to 2700. I'm not really sure what those numbers mean but mum has decided to stop all treatment and will be meeting with a palliative care team in December.
I knew this day would come i guess i just thought it wouldnt be so soon.
We are now getting her affairs in order and I'm trying to be there for her as much as possible.
She seems to be up and down emotionally which is totally understandable. But shes a very stoic woman and hasnt cried or anything (shes not the type to lean on someone) more of a factual, well this is happening type.
I can sense shes feeling guilt and probably regret just in the way she had said some things and in usual mum fashion when i offer to do things for her she asks me why I'm doing it 🤣 to help you silly. Shes the most stubborn, independent woman I've ever known and i take after her in that way and I made sure i told her how much i admire her "i don't need no man to do anything for me" attitude, shes so headstrong and we have butted heads 1000s of times over the years for it. I wouldnt have it any other way. I mean that in an endearing way.
I know when the time comes its going to break my heart but as long as she gets to go out peacefully and is as comfortable as possible thats all that matters to me.
Ive also been very careful to try and not mother her too much because she is so independent but i do constantly remind her that I'm here and i will do whatever she needs help with.
Yeah i don't really know what that whole post was about. Just a info dump/diary entry i guess.
I dont know how much time mum has left but i do think this xmas will be her last so i will make sure she gets a garlic seafood lunch, with some baileys on ice and a good book to read (all of her favourite things)
I hope everyone here is doing as well as can be expected.