Lost and struggling

@Toni63
I haven’t had this experience which is just as well as I might have killed him! Most of the medical specialists I have encountered - and there’s been quite a few - have been intelligent and understanding. But statistically there have to be some people who shouldn’t actually be allowed near sentient beings and you have unfortunately encountered one of them. Your friends are right - do not allow this person to cause you one more second of grief. Your sense of distress is easy to comprehend but he’s done enough damage, no need to do more to yourself. Let it go, you deserve to enjoy your life not relive his stupidity. Best wishes. 

Gosh @Toni63 - I've not had this experience & would have been totally gob-smacked & like you, probably put into shock - and tempted to slap him, or better - thump him!  Oops - big assumption there - was it a male or female?   

You've been thru so much already & to be told that by some 'non professional' professional ...... is just mind bending and totally unprofessional!  

I agree -  some people should NOT be allowed to hang their shingle when they have absolutely zero people skills - what was their supposed 'specialty'?  I hope you only saw them the once & then found someone else!!

Even tho it is some years later - it may well be worth documenting the conversation in writing with the Medical Board .... who knows how many other patients this so-called specialist may have treated in this manner - they really need to be censured ...... specially with the obvious mental anguish caused to you for all these years - & to how many others?

Take care, rest easy xx All the best with your signing off xx

Hi @Toni63, what a terrible thing to say to you. Perhaps you could do your own 5 yr sign off. Submit your feedback to this dr. It can simply be an email with your review of their performance. You could also do a google review or if they have a website where reviews are provided you could use that. It is only fair to have your sign off on them too. After all none of these drs exist without you and others. 

If you don't want to provide a review you could write it and have a burning ceremony of the review to let go of these drs  it isn't worth thinking about them as they really mean nothing in your life. They are simply a tool to you to enable your treatment etc. They are finished now and so you don't have to hang on to them and their negative comments. I am sure you have much better things to think about. 

Enjoy being free of this dr. Enjoy being free of all the checks. Stay healthy and happy. 

Oh, @Toni63, that is disgusting but not unusual.  I was told by the GP that "DCIS is not cancer so won't kill you" so i fully understand your feelings.
I agree with @Cath62, write the review and have a burning ceremony.  That can be cathartic.
All the best - make a toast as the embers burn.  💖

What an absolute flog @toni63 Sack him if you haven't already done so!

I've had a few experiences with total jerks (and one notable jerkess) that have left me seething. Best thing to do is never see them again. Even if that is a bit inconvenient.

It's difficult to forget this stuff. Even reading about your experience as reignited my anger at the brutally disconnected idiocy of people who are smart enough to obtain a doctorate but so stupid in other aspects of their lives.

In some ways I feel sorry for them. Even when I want to set their hair alight and tell them it's only a little fire.

Mxx

Hi. 

I always thought of it as a form of cancer, particularly as the word carcinoma is in the description. Ductal Carcinoma in Situ!!

If it is not cancer why do they bother with mastectomies and taking lymph nodes  🤣🤣🤣🤣
Perhaps that is their way of trying to say we are not going to die overnight.
@Zoffiel, I did laugh at the thought of you setting their hair on fire !

I could well imagine that if this dickhead was an obstetrician talking to a patient who had lost a baby at say,10 weeks saying something like this. "Well you can't really say that you've lost a baby....it wasn't a baby...it was just a blob of cells. It had the potential to become a baby, but you were only a little bit pregnant, not really like pregnant pregnant..." Give him the flick and find someone else who will treat you properly. As mentioned by others...ductal carcinoma in situ, means cancerous epithelial cells which haven't yet escaped the ducts and then become invasive.

@Toni63

You probably should have said that clearly they were only a little bit stupid? dumb ass!!! 

Here's the thing there are some of these incredible creatures out there that do think with all their wisdom (having NO clue being on the receiving end of any sort of cancer) say that they think DCIS isn't cancer. 

I went through something a little similar, my first diagnosis in 2011 was also DCIS, I had radiation, lumpectomy and tamoxifen for 4yrs and then had a recurrence in the same spot, so chemo and then Arimidex, a year later I did a single mastectomy diep flap recon and am now 5 yrs from that :) BUT...the radiologist in 2011 had the gall to say to me aaaah  it's just cells, its the beginning of what could turn into cancer. Pffft OK!! mind you I had a recurrence 4yrs later same spot?? I should have gone back and slapped him?? and reminded him ohhh it's not really cancer and ummmm DH you didn't kill it obviously with your rads either LOL

Somethings defy logic and really?? you know your truth and what YOU went through...so for the record? it is cancer big small or in between, its all Cancer. 

Big hugs!! xoxo 

M