@Broccoli I hear you having had DCIS myself in 2010, lumpectomy, radiation and tamoxifen. Then 4yrs later in 2015 it came back! in the same spot? literally impossible but it did Stage 2, Grade 3 aggressive, so lumpectomy to remove and chemo for 6 months. In 2017 my post chemo visit the Oncologist the recommended a mastectomy to safeguard myself, it was a very difficult decision, mentally/emotionally. I decided on a single mastectomy/diep flap recon. Im lucky to be 7 yrs clear from my 2nd diagnosis. Every diagnosis is traumatic, every type of treatment is traumatic completely agree.
I do think sometimes people talk in terms of the stages of Cancer, so whilst saying was it just 'DCIS' they should rephrase it and maybe say was it early stage. It is all Cancer regardless, yes DCIS is I think they call stage 0 so its the very beginning. When it is widespread it does require some sort of treatment plan, be it surgery or radiation or anything. It is no different, it still requires treatment. So I hear you having been through both, its all very hard and traumatic, every single part of it.
Keep looking after you! It is a new normal, and survivorship ummm I think the Specialists disregard. Take care
M x