Are you Caring for a Partner & Parents with Dementia/Alzheimers
Just wondering how many of us are actively caring for partners or parents with dementia/alzheimers?
If there are enough interested in doing so, we could ask the mods for our own group, to discuss the very real and personal issues that affect us, as their carers - and also how it is affecting/impacting our own recovery.
Tips & tricks on how to cope, would be really good - and just a secure, private area where we can vent or celebrate small wins. For those who are incontinent, for example, apparently there is an 'Incontinent Nurse' at most local health facilities, that can arrange an Incontinence Care Package that is subsidised (at little or no cost to you) but you need a GP referral to kick it off. 'Cos the cost of pads & pull-up pants costs a HEAP - 'specially when going thru nearly a pack a night! :( Hubby has recently become totally 24/7 incontinent. It is a life-changing event for both of us. I haven't had a full night's sleep without 4-5 interruptions for weeks now. He had an ultrasound on Friday & I should get the results tomorrow - and am hoping that something can be done to mitigate the severity of it all. However, from the questions the radiographer asked, I am a bit concerned it won't be 'good'. :(
It is such an insidious disease - I call it the 'living death' ..... you have to watch the person you love slowly change in both physical and mental abilities until they are almost unrecognisable. There are funny times too ..... I never know what I am going to find in what cupboard, anywhere in the house!! Stuff that should be in the fridge is in the cupboard & the cupboard things in the fridge ...... I found my electric toothbrush zipped in his Hearing Aid pack yesterday .....
SO .... Hubby (mid 80s) was diagnosed as Mod/Severe dementia 5 years ago (tho I'd been noticing silly decision making for some years prior to that) & is slowly getting worse. His twin brother is further along than him (he stayed with us for 4 days 2 weeks ago & it was a bit like herding cats!) Their older brother died from it in the USA some years ago, so it would appear to be genetic. His mother died when he was a baby & his father was only in his 60s when he died from excess of booze & smokes, so we don't know if they 'would have' developed it ....
I've recently signed him/us up to My Aged Care, but the bloke on the phone didn't think he needed assistance at this point in time (after asking him 3 simple questions, in particular that I would be speaking on his behalf, that just required 'yes' for an answer - and I was prompting him when to say it!) Bloody DIPSTICK!
I am very interested in hearing the highs & lows of your own dementia carer journey .... and maybe we'll be able to help each other. xx
If there are enough interested in doing so, we could ask the mods for our own group, to discuss the very real and personal issues that affect us, as their carers - and also how it is affecting/impacting our own recovery.
Tips & tricks on how to cope, would be really good - and just a secure, private area where we can vent or celebrate small wins. For those who are incontinent, for example, apparently there is an 'Incontinent Nurse' at most local health facilities, that can arrange an Incontinence Care Package that is subsidised (at little or no cost to you) but you need a GP referral to kick it off. 'Cos the cost of pads & pull-up pants costs a HEAP - 'specially when going thru nearly a pack a night! :( Hubby has recently become totally 24/7 incontinent. It is a life-changing event for both of us. I haven't had a full night's sleep without 4-5 interruptions for weeks now. He had an ultrasound on Friday & I should get the results tomorrow - and am hoping that something can be done to mitigate the severity of it all. However, from the questions the radiographer asked, I am a bit concerned it won't be 'good'. :(
It is such an insidious disease - I call it the 'living death' ..... you have to watch the person you love slowly change in both physical and mental abilities until they are almost unrecognisable. There are funny times too ..... I never know what I am going to find in what cupboard, anywhere in the house!! Stuff that should be in the fridge is in the cupboard & the cupboard things in the fridge ...... I found my electric toothbrush zipped in his Hearing Aid pack yesterday .....
SO .... Hubby (mid 80s) was diagnosed as Mod/Severe dementia 5 years ago (tho I'd been noticing silly decision making for some years prior to that) & is slowly getting worse. His twin brother is further along than him (he stayed with us for 4 days 2 weeks ago & it was a bit like herding cats!) Their older brother died from it in the USA some years ago, so it would appear to be genetic. His mother died when he was a baby & his father was only in his 60s when he died from excess of booze & smokes, so we don't know if they 'would have' developed it ....
I've recently signed him/us up to My Aged Care, but the bloke on the phone didn't think he needed assistance at this point in time (after asking him 3 simple questions, in particular that I would be speaking on his behalf, that just required 'yes' for an answer - and I was prompting him when to say it!) Bloody DIPSTICK!
I am very interested in hearing the highs & lows of your own dementia carer journey .... and maybe we'll be able to help each other. xx
