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longwait
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13 years ago

pink sister advice

it's been a long wait for 'my new normal'....3years since diagnosis, bilat, chemo, radiation, hysterectomy & arimadex. Short horrid fuzzy hair still, lymphaedema, chronic nerve pain & a host of 'bits & pieces' but grining and saying 'all good' as programmed as that is what everyone wants to hear!  Not happy & no fun in my life just existing now, regretting everything as the results are simply too much to deal with. root cause is that I look & feel hideous and husband agrees, whcih explains why from day one there has been nothing but silence between us.  should i just pack up my bags and leave my husband? leave my job and home and adult son and try to start again, having learnt my lessions  - putup shutup and trust and rely on no-one?  need some advice as things are sad and not looking like they will change.

 

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    Deanne
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    13 years ago
    So sorry you are feeling this way. We all have moments where everything gets on top of us and it's hard to see a way forward. If you have been feeling this way for a while though, I would think it is time to seek professional help from a counsellor. You need to let out your feelings not keep them shut up inside you. The best way to do this is with a counsellor. Sometimes you just need to talk about it with someone who can give you unbiased advice. Find someone soon, ring the Cancer Council or Lifeline for advice on what to do. I have had counseling it really does help. Deanne xo