Hi ladies people just dont know what to say, I have decided I dont really care if they cant cope because I'm having a hard time coping and I have to put myself first. It is a looong road through this and I myself dont know when I will feel that I have got too the end. I try and take each day 1 at a time and, sometimes this works and sometimes it dosent. Take care and think about it as it is their problem not yours.
Hi ladies people just dont know what to say, I have decided I dont really care if they cant cope because I'm having a hard time coping and I have to put myself first. It is a looong road through this and I myself dont know when I will feel that I have got too the end. I try and take each day 1 at a time and, sometimes this works and sometimes it dosent. Take care and think about it as it is their problem not yours.
My breast cancer journey has shown me how selfish people can be, also narrow minded. My best friend told me when I was first dx that I was not really sick, I suppose she was looking at me fit and healthy, but really??
When my husband told my mum I had breast cancer, she said she didn't understand? Mmmm I have cancer and it is in my breast! All she was concerned about was had I told my sister who I hadn't spoken to for 3-4 years. My sister was the last person I was thinking about, my main concern was my 3 teenage children, I certainly didn't want the extra stress which my sister shares with abundance.
Unfortunately some do not know what to say, and others simply don't think, and then we have the others who want their lives to be bigger through what ever means.
Sounds like your mum is not someone you really need, put her voice aside and look after yourself.
Take care
Viv xxxx
My breast cancer journey has shown me how selfish people can be, also narrow minded. My best friend told me when I was first dx that I was not really sick, I suppose she was looking at me fit and healthy, but really??
When my husband told my mum I had breast cancer, she said she didn't understand? Mmmm I have cancer and it is in my breast! All she was concerned about was had I told my sister who I hadn't spoken to for 3-4 years. My sister was the last person I was thinking about, my main concern was my 3 teenage children, I certainly didn't want the extra stress which my sister shares with abundance.
Unfortunately some do not know what to say, and others simply don't think, and then we have the others who want their lives to be bigger through what ever means.
Sounds like your mum is not someone you really need, put her voice aside and look after yourself.
Take care
Viv xxxx
Family responses can be very odd. To say you are a glutton for punishment just sounds wrong. Nobody voluntarily takes on breast cancer. I suspect she didn't have any idea at all what to say and was awkwardly filling the gap. She is probably wondering why she said it too. I would take it as a 'blip' and see how she reacts next. Life has taught me that family is precious. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. I think it stuns every mother when her daughter phones to say she has breast cancer.
I hope I never hear those words from one of my two daughters although I may have to. My husbands family carry the BRC1 gene and all the women get it, and now I have this. Their chances of bc are high. If I get the phone call, I will know not to say what you heard anyway.
Best wishes and I hope your mum supports you in your journey.
Take care.
Family responses can be very odd. To say you are a glutton for punishment just sounds wrong. Nobody voluntarily takes on breast cancer. I suspect she didn't have any idea at all what to say and was awkwardly filling the gap. She is probably wondering why she said it too. I would take it as a 'blip' and see how she reacts next. Life has taught me that family is precious. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. I think it stuns every mother when her daughter phones to say she has breast cancer.
I hope I never hear those words from one of my two daughters although I may have to. My husbands family carry the BRC1 gene and all the women get it, and now I have this. Their chances of bc are high. If I get the phone call, I will know not to say what you heard anyway.
Best wishes and I hope your mum supports you in your journey.
Take care.
