Thank you ladies so much for your responses.
People do seem not to know how to react to bad news (well to us it is bad news) and I just think it's shows what type of person they are. I have heard bad news(not just about cancer) my first instinct is give them a cuddle or if over the phone a sincere apology for their pain.
I have always felt and thought different to my mother and other family members and I'm afraid my going through what I did confirmed this.
It's sad really. I even had who I thought was a very dear friend kept away from me during my treatment now this has finished she is back in my life. Unfortunately I don't go out of my way, like I did before, for her even though I care about her and my family it's made me realise who I can count on.
Strangers were more of a comfort to me and this helped me.
I am also lucky to have the most supportful and loving husband there is. I'm not the type of person who can turn my back on people who I care about but sometimes I seemed to get depressed on why people who I thought cared about me act the way they do. Oh well life goes on and I am blessed in so many other ways.
Merry Christmas and happy New Year to everyone. XXXX