My breast cancer journey has shown me how selfish people can be, also narrow minded. My best friend told me when I was first dx that I was not really sick, I suppose she was looking at me fit and healthy, but really??
When my husband told my mum I had breast cancer, she said she didn't understand? Mmmm I have cancer and it is in my breast! All she was concerned about was had I told my sister who I hadn't spoken to for 3-4 years. My sister was the last person I was thinking about, my main concern was my 3 teenage children, I certainly didn't want the extra stress which my sister shares with abundance.
Unfortunately some do not know what to say, and others simply don't think, and then we have the others who want their lives to be bigger through what ever means.
Sounds like your mum is not someone you really need, put her voice aside and look after yourself.
Take care
Viv xxxx