Hi everyone. I’m new here, recently diagnosed with high grade DCIS. I had a wide excision to remove the DCIS and margins. Results showed small amounts of invasive cancer in the margins, so a week ago I had another surgery to remove that invasive tissue and a few lymph nodes. I’ve been coping with everything pretty well and have a loving supportive family. I also have a huge network of friends. However, today, I’m sad. Like tears won’t stop. I haven’t had anyone visit me this week - I get it, people have lives and are busy, but I feel forgotten and as if people think it’s all over now… I don’t get results from second surgery until 2 June so the waiting is torture. I don’t understand why I am being so unreasonable about the lack of visitors!! Does anyone else feel this way? I also have a colleague going through BC treatment. She had a double mastectomy and is amazing- turns up to work straight after her surgery and seems to be coping so well. I feel like I can’t be honest about my feelings at work as my diagnosis is not that bad. Again, this makes me feel so selfish!

Thank you lovely people for your kind replies. I had three different friends show up to visit today which I was not expecting… after reading your responses, I will definitely look to keeping myself busy and doing what makes me happy. X

Cath62, gosh you are so brave putting a post on Facebook, I’ve not done that yet… I love your advice to expect nothing, then get joy when something happens. Sending you lots of best wishes too.

Welcome to the forum and being so honest in where you feel you are at emotionally. What you will find is support comes from the most unexpected places! Friends, family, as you noted, have their own lives, issues et cetera Comparing yourself to someone else, a work colleague isn't helping you. It's a so and so however everyone handles it in their own way. Your colleague has her way, you have yours. Don't feel selfish - it’s a major event in your life. Perhaps ringing BCNA Helpline or engaging with a Psychologist may help you. Acceptance is the key. Find time to take a deep breath, make a cuppa or enjoy a wander in the fresh air! Best wishes for your further results Take care

https://www.bcna.org.au/resources/treatments/dcis-treatment/dcis-grades-and-pathology/ The BCNA website is a wealth of information Hopefully this link or a search of the website may help you

SO Sorry to see you joining our 'club', angea - the one no-one ever thought they'd join :( You've had 2 lots of surgeries & are still in recovery - so it is pretty natural to be a bit sad - Let your tears flow .... I think many of us have gone thru some sadness, even a bit of depression now & then .... iserbrown has given some great advice - I am sure that chatting with our helpline on Monday morning will help you xx Also, Consider checking out Charlotte Tottman's podcasts on her own cancer story - she is a specialist cancer psychologist who was diagnosed herself with BC and had a double mastectomy, choosing to remain flat. She 'thought' she knew what most of the 'procedure' would be - so was really surprised when she had similar reactions to her own clients ... and she talks about it, what she expected vs what happened. She is very easy to listen to - You can just listen to individual sessions, or just start at the 1st one & work your way thru. xx What You Don't Know Until You Do ....http://www.drcharlottetottman.com.au/my-podcast.html Sadly, this diagnosis mucks more with our brains even more than your body, I reckon ... I just try & keep myself as busy as I can, doing things I love doing. This all depends on your recovery too - just do 'stuff' as you are able to xx Take care & all the best

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