Nasty cancer....sigh!

Wow, if it is a competition, none of us really want to compete in it. We are all united and most of us support each other, that's all there is to it:) I think the lady must of been a bit nasty before she got the 'nasty cancer'. Love the 'pun', all the best, 

Hazel xx

I had triple negative. After I did research on tnbc I felt really isolated. My mum had 2 primaries - hormone positive and I disconnected from her experience. Then I found out I had to have chemo and she didn't need to either time. I felt even more disconnected from her. Maybe this lady was the same with her experience, instead of it giving her a bond with other women with breast cancer, it makes her feel alone and isolated as she is looking for someone going through the "same". It doesn't make her right, but it may just be her way of processing her experience. I'm letting go of that mindset (slowly) because whatever "type" of breast cancer or whatever treatments or surgeries or side effects we experience - it would be hard to find someone exactly the same. So don't be angry at her, be sorry for her. Instead of embracing love & support from from the only people who understand how it feels to hear the words, "I'm sorry but you have breast cancer", it seems she is rejecting that. Love the pun btw, I'm glad you got it off your chest, that's what we're here for. That's what that lady is truly missing out on. Congrats on the walk!

I have had triple negative breast cancer and a recurrance so yes I guess I had it twice! In my opinion we are all united in this battle that we have been thrown into without us asking for it. 

When I was told about my diagnosis my Dr didnt make to big a deal about the triple negative thing.  He just stated what I had and how we were going to treat it.  At the time I didn't quite get how aggressive my cancer was.  I guess i am lucky (if you call getting BC twice lucky) that both times I found my lumps early. I am also lucky my Dr didn't make too big a deal ablut the type of diagnosis I had.  He just told me the facts and we got on with things.

I have made some lovely "cancer buddies" as my friend likes to call them along the way.  We all had different diagnosis's but that has never been an issue with any of us.  Recently I sadly lost two of those beautiful ladies to this awful disease.  One had triple negative and the other didn't.  My only thoughts are how sad it was to lose them both not which cancer had caused their illness.

The lady you are talking about is probably one of those annoying people in life who makes everything about themself.  If you had met her pre cancer for both of you, she would probably have annoyed you then too!!!

I wish you every happiness.  You are looking fantastic and good on you for doing the walk too :)

Paula xx

Hi Jen Maybe having the 'nasty' cancer made her a nasty person. Ha ha. You would think that going through this would help most people to be more empathetic but I guess some were self-centered before hand and just continue to be so.

As Robyn says there are many people who we come into contact with as a result of BC (like all of you wonderful ladies) that we feel very fortunate to have 'met' and in the mix are unfortunately a few who we could have done without! The challenge of cancer can bring out your true colours that's for sure. Keep in touch. Deanne xxx

Hi......

Some people does this way.  I had a friend she was suffering from BC 10 years ago and she's fine.  However, she's a kind of "compete" she survived the best, she's been treated the best, she's the most mild, and she's the tougest..... she is whatever, to "win" it.

It made me angry though when to a cricital issue, she was 10 years ago, and now many things have changed and upgraded.  She still want to be the "winner"

Some people does that, anyway, I still thanks to her when sharing the same topic with me, that might some "ordinary" people might not understand.

But it's funny.....and (childish)

Take care

Rosanna

I have a 'friend' who has just received her second triple negative diagnosis.She is doing fine,but I feel,when I am with her,that my cancer is not worth talking about! I know exactly how you feel,but I just think to myself,I am proud of my strength through this!!!like you,I wonder is it me? Am I being a b@#¥? Am I reading too much into this? But no I'm not!!Stay strong Jen,and surround yourself with the people that matter the most.I guess through this experience,we come across many people that we otherwise would not have crossed paths with.Some we feel fortunate to have met,and some we wish would just disappear!! Lol .Take it easy Jen and stay on here:) Cheers xox Robyn

I have a 'friend' who has just received her second triple negative diagnosis.She is doing fine,but I feel,when I am with her,that my cancer is not worth talking about! I know exactly how you feel,but I just think to myself,I am proud of my strength through this!!!like you,I wonder is it me? Am I being a b@#¥? Am I reading too much into this? But no I'm not!!Stay strong Jen,and surround yourself with the people that matter the most.I guess through this experience,we come across many people that we otherwise would not have crossed paths with.Some we feel fortunate to have met,and some we wish would just disappear!! Lol .Take it easy Jen and stay on here:) Cheers xox Robyn