Diagnosis

Best of luck Shannon.  It is a horrible feeling to be out of control - I know, I've unfortunately been there twice (and I'm only 43!).  As the others have already said, pop in anytime for a chat as there are plenty of people on here who have been through or are going through what you are going through....we can understand.

I have felt so welcomed on this site and the information that people have given has helped me no end.

Keep in touch,

Louise

Hi and thankyou for the warm welcome.....Yes I'm just recovering from the surgery but I'm enjoying being back at work again.......I start my chemo on Monday and just wish it would hurry up and come because the fear of the unknown and how  I will react is really hard to cope with

I find that its  waiting for appointments and results  the hardest part 

regards Sal 

Hi and thankyou for the warm welcome.....Yes I'm just recovering from the surgery but I'm enjoying being back at work again.......I start my chemo on Monday and just wish it would hurry up and come because the fear of the unknown and how  I will react is really hard to cope with

I find that its  waiting for appointments and results  the hardest part 

regards Sal 

Hi and welcome ..... like Moira said, it would be so good if we didn't have to welcoming new people into our group every day, but the facts are that we have no choice.

Don't get me wrong, it's not a chore for us to be here and offer our support, it's a joy.  Hopefully in some small way we can help you  settle in so to speak.  You are right in what you say about  about understanding, unless they have "been there, done that" our well meaning friends have no way of knowing how we are feeling or what we are going through.

I had so many offers of help when I was in hospital and after I was out I almost felt suffocated.  Terry was upset too  ..... don't they think I can look after you ..... use a vacuum cleaner .... do dishes ... wash clothes etc etc.  In the end I had to be a bit strict and tell them "please respect us and what we want ... if we need help we promise to ask" .... that worked ok.

Call in here to have a chat whenever you feel up to it --- wheyther to have a cry, vent, or tell a silly joke .....

Cheers ...... Shirl xxx

Hi and welcome ..... like Moira said, it would be so good if we didn't have to welcoming new people into our group every day, but the facts are that we have no choice.

Don't get me wrong, it's not a chore for us to be here and offer our support, it's a joy.  Hopefully in some small way we can help you  settle in so to speak.  You are right in what you say about  about understanding, unless they have "been there, done that" our well meaning friends have no way of knowing how we are feeling or what we are going through.

I had so many offers of help when I was in hospital and after I was out I almost felt suffocated.  Terry was upset too  ..... don't they think I can look after you ..... use a vacuum cleaner .... do dishes ... wash clothes etc etc.  In the end I had to be a bit strict and tell them "please respect us and what we want ... if we need help we promise to ask" .... that worked ok.

Call in here to have a chat whenever you feel up to it --- wheyther to have a cry, vent, or tell a silly joke .....

Cheers ...... Shirl xxx

thanks so much for the welcome. I have been feeling a little lost since my diagnosis. How nice  it is to click around this site and find i'm not alone at all. Family and friends have been fantastic and everyone wants to help but no-one can really understand until they have been through it.  I figure i'm at the start of my journey with a long way to go but i will get there!!

Hi Janet

You were diagnosed the same day as me, but mine was in 2007!!!!  I had my mast and ancillary clearance on 20th December 2007.  You are at that crappy stage of not knowing and waiting around for results, once you have your treatment plan things will become clearer in your head.  The 'what ifs" can drive you crazy if you let it, so try to handle just one day at a time, I know that is easier said than done.

Take care and ask plenty of questions, we love to chat.

Tanya xx

although i would rather NOT be welcoming you into the group, you have landed in the right spot to meet the most brilliant lot of women who are going through or have been through the same journey. There is a great amount of information and support from everyone who uses this site, and as i live in a rural area i never had a support group i could attend, although family and friends are great and want to help as much as possible, i felt talking with women (and men), who have been through the experience, then they know how i feel, although all our journeys are different we do have bc in common.  When i was diagnosed my surgeon said to me, Moira this is a life threatning disease but its not a death sentence, I probably clung to that statement in the early days, although every other thought is fighting for room as well, Especially at night when you want to sleep,  The waiting is the worse part.  So I will stop rabbiting on, and hope that you all keep in touch, already you have all met others who are at the same stage in your journey. and by helping yourself you can help others no question or statement is taboo or stupid on here, so please feel free to chat, vent or laugh.  Regards Moira

hi Sal,

Hi Sal, Welcome to our band of pals, you have landed in the right spot, to be able to meet others who have travelled the road, some like yourself who are just starting and thoughts and brains all over the place, to others who have been bc free for many years, so there is a great amount of knowledge and support on here, especially if you dont have a local support group. please feel free to ask any questions or express any fears you may have, and as time goes on, you will be helping others who follow on the same journey, all our journeys (as in life) is different but we do have this crap illness in common. so just remember no comments or questions are stupid on here no matter what you think. please feel free to add me to your contact list, Good luck and please keep in touch.

Regards Moira

Hi Shannon

Sorry you were diagnosed.  I was diagnosed at 36 in 2007 and I still feel like it is something that happened to someone else, but I also know that this far down the track the more distance I put between me and my diagnosis the better I feel.

I had a mastecomy and chemo and in May last year opted to have my healthy breast off and a reconstruction on both.

Hang in there hon, it is gonna be a bumpy ride but you will come out the other side better than before.

Feel free to ask anything.  Take care.

Tanya