Hi @BDS
Welcome lovely. There are so many choice to make along the way. Trusting your own instincts is hard to do as well. The stats are that lumpectomy and radiation offer the same protection but you really have to go wih your gut feeling. There really is no right or wrong and each has its own merits but unfortunately neither is certain for sure.
For me personally (stage 2 grade 2. 19mm tumour plus nodes) it was a no brainer. I chose lumpectomy with no regrets and was very thankful that I even had a choice. Unfortunately I got thrown in the chemo pool as well due to node involvement and then 6 weeks of rads with the boost week. I had very little trouble with the radiation. Opinions differ but I was told that reconstruction was available but would need to wait for around 12months after rads.
Hormone therapy is something you can proceed with and always stop if it sux too much.
All the best with your decisions lovely.
xoxoxoxo