@sjd_barra I think we handle breast cancer diagnosis and treatment the same way we handle any significant stress in our lives. Some people want to surround themselves with support, others--like myself--prefer to go to appointments and treatment on their own. Some of us are younger than others, but we are all grown ups and have developed out own ways of dealing with complications in our lives.
Yes, sometimes we do need help, but if you are inherently independent learning to accept that help with grace is yet another difficult lesson. You need to do it in your own time and I totally understand your keeping quiet until such time as you can answer the inevitable avalanche of questions and advice with something more considered than 'I don't know yet.' Mxx