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Stress ten fold
Hi all
I was diagnosed two weeks ago with infiltrating ductal carcinoma. The tumour was apparently 1.3cm . It was removed,surgery went well. Got my results two days ago and the tumour removed was 3.1 cm and it was in the sentiniel lymph node , l have to have chemo and radiation . The tumour was hormone positive only and the stress is i am pregnant , having termination today. I have 3 chn , youngest is 14 months . I do not want the baby . i am not in the right frame of mind and my decision is final . i just need some encouragement people, . I am 39 years old DR said i also have pre cancer cells and may have to go on hormoe tablets as well.
I was diagnosed two weeks ago with infiltrating ductal carcinoma. The tumour was apparently 1.3cm . It was removed,surgery went well. Got my results two days ago and the tumour removed was 3.1 cm and it was in the sentiniel lymph node , l have to have chemo and radiation . The tumour was hormone positive only and the stress is i am pregnant , having termination today. I have 3 chn , youngest is 14 months . I do not want the baby . i am not in the right frame of mind and my decision is final . i just need some encouragement people, . I am 39 years old DR said i also have pre cancer cells and may have to go on hormoe tablets as well.
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- Chipo it must be very hard emotionally when you feel that your chn wouldn't be well looked after if you pass away. I was diagnosed over 5 years ago now and I want to let you know I am now cancer free (NED) no evidence of disease.
Do you have a breast care nurse ? if not you can find one at the below linkBreast Care Nurses
https://www.mcgrathfoundation.com.au/OurMission/OurNurses/FindANurse.aspx
My Journey Kits and other resources. here you will be able to order some things to help you
https://www.bcna.org.au/resources/
Hugs
Soldiercrab
- @Chipo
We feel for you and the difficult situation you are in, you certainly have a lot to deal with at the moment which sounds very overwhelming. Please make sure your treating team are aware of everything that is going on for you so they can provide the best support, advice and treatment. Your health is important and when you have all the information you need you are in the best position to make decisions regarding what is right for you. We can understand that today will be a difficult day for you, I will give you a call to see how you are going. Thinking of you.Take care
Tracey
- Sending you big hugs Chipo. xxxx
- Chipo, There's no right or wrong in this - just what you can manage, and it's so much harder without our mums. You've got so much to cope with at the moment. Try to be kind to yourself - you will get through this one step at a time (the mantra we all seem to live with). Please don't try to manage alone. I hope today goes as well as possible for you.
- Im in sydney
- l cannot go through another pregnancy . The last one was horrible , i had so much stress and a not so supportive husband at the beginning still have the same husband by the way. i nearly thought of ending it all . I felt alone and just resented the whole pregnancy but l do love my daughter.i have been to hell and back . i have just had enough i feel like i have hit a brick wall. l do not want to bring a child in the world who will then live as an orphan. from my cultural perspective i dont think my chn will be looked after well when l am gone . i love them to pieces and want to be there for them . being pregnant again will send me over the edge. by the way i was breastfeeding and also on microlut when i fell pregnant i am roughly 2 months i think.
