Hi @rladdley - so sorry to see you’ve joined the club no one wants to join and also had a recurrence. Grrrr The post @Anj_j2020 mentioned is here:
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/22950/going-flat-with-pride#latestIt is such a personal decision ... you can join the Reconstruction group, if you like, to chat with others to help you with your decision .... when is your surgery?
I am 68 now and always thought that IF I had a double, that I’d stay flat too. I’ve never been keen on having medical procedures that I don’t really ‘need’ .... but that is just ‘me’!
as the others have said, you can make the decision later but some ‘prep work’ is often done at the point of initial surgery ... but I think you may already be leaning on the ‘no’ side ....
Just so long as you are totally comfy with whatever way you jump xxx
take care and all the best fir the surgery xx
PS Where about safe you? Town/city/area? You can add it to your profile. We may have members nearby if you wanted to catch up for a chat/support xx