Oh Mel, we never know when it's going to hit us. You have been through so much trauma, and at the time we soldier on because we don't have a choice, but eventually we have to let it out, and venting is healthy. I hope it helps to talk about it here with so many others that just get it, because we do. And of course you miss your mum, we never 'get over' grief, we learn to live with it. With change in our lives, and this is a change in yours too, we grieve too. It is a process that is natural and normal. This new surgery, although it marks the end of this journey, is a big thing too. I hope your appointment went well. Big hugs to you Kate x
