@FionaJ I completely get it. I was diagnosed with ILC on 5 December from a screening mammogram. I went in for partial and then back in for a mastectomy and clearance when it was found to be twice the size originally thought. All I can say, in addition to what @melclarity has said, is to try to breathe and take it a step at a time. Your path will become clearer once the path report comes back after surgery. I found that the surgery itself is not so bad. Yes, there is pain and you do need some help with things when you come home but it is manageable. How you feel about the surgery is a different matter. Take care and ask any questions you want to.