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Nads
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9 years ago

Overwhelmed

well 22/12/2016 is a day I'm not going to forget in a hurry.  My partner and I where both called back for checks on 19/12 same day at breast screen. Sitting quietly in waiting room together and going thru all the follow ups, more scans and biopsy was a wee bit scary.  Toni had hers all finished and all good to go then it was my turn.  I was the last one in the waiting room feeling a little lost.  Had my biopsy and set to go.  The next 3 days couldn't come quick enough to get the results. Toni was first and phew all clear so tag team and she had to race back to our business and I headed in for my results.  I'm only 48 all should be fine, hmm well I'm sorry Nadine but your results show you have breast cancer. Merry f*##ing Christmas.  I have never felt so overwhelmed and scared at the same time.  The staff at breast screen where fantastic and the whirlwind started of drs appointments etc.  I will be seeing my surgeon on Thursday and trying to take this one step at a time.  Trying to stay positive is hard but I'm getting there.  Having support is the best and reading other stories has helped me settle my mind.

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  • Nads's avatar
    Nads
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    9 years ago
    Thank you all for your support.  I have order my kit but just waiting for it to arrive.  Keeping busy at work helps me take my mind off everything but quiet times at night are the killer lol Once again THANKYOU everyone I will update soon
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    melclarity
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    9 years ago
    @Nads So sorry to hear of your news, and right on Christmas is tough on many levels, everything being shut or on hold adding to the panic and anxiety. I think youre doing the best thing, in that you are taking a step back and a deep breath and so importantly is One Step At A Time. Things are incredibly overwhelming at the point you are and we all know how hard it is. Its hard right now as until you have your surgery you won't have your pathology, and once you have that you will know exactly what you have and what your treatment will be. I think knowing is half the battle and helps you deal with each step. Hang in there. Hugs Melinda xo
  • socoda's avatar
    socoda
    Member
    9 years ago
    Hi Nads, Welcome. Good luck with your appointment tomorrow. Once you have your surgery date you can start getting things ready in preparation. I don't know what type of business you have but when you find out if you come back on here there will be ladies who have had the same surgery and they can let you know what to expect recovery wise - might help with planning for the business. I know that for me work was a great coping mechanism and allowed me to concentrate on something other than the impending treatment. Let us know how you are going. Xx Cath
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    Jess_BCNA
    Member
    9 years ago
    Hello Nads, I just wanted to jump in to say hello and welcome you to the online network and to let you know that if you need any help in the online network to please just let me know.  As Ink petal mentioned, When you can, you might like to have a look at The My Journey Kit which contains information, a journal, and other helpful resources. It's free and you can order it online with the link ink petal provided just above :)  If you need any help online, connecting with other members or finding support, please just get in touch.  
     
  • InkPetal's avatar
    InkPetal
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    9 years ago
    It sounds like you're coping really well! Awesome! Have you got your hands on the My Journey Kit? If not, it's a really worthwhile free resource BCNA will send out to you if you'd like it. :heart:
  • Hopes_and_Dream's avatar
    Hopes_and_Dream
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    9 years ago
    Sorry, using my iPhone and lost half of my post (again ....)
    It's easy to forget to ask something during the appointment with so much information coming at you! 
    You will feel more in control after Thursday when you'll have a better understanding of your type of cancer and initial treatment plan.
    Many of our ladies will have had similar treatment and will be happy to share their experiences with you.
    I hope the next couple of days goes quickly for you. All the best for Thursday, let us know how you go. We are all here for you. Jane x
  • Hopes_and_Dream's avatar
    Hopes_and_Dream
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    9 years ago
    Hello Nads, welcome to the forum, so sorry for your news. Nothing can quite prepare us for that  can it.  You will find a huge amount of support and information here.  The thing is, we have all been where you are and we get it. We are here to listen when you need to vent or have questions.  You are right - it does feel like a whirlwind at first and there is so much to take in.
    keep a notebook and jot down all the questions you think of (there are NO stupid questions
  • Afraser's avatar
    Afraser
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    9 years ago
    Hi Nads

    BC is not the place you want to be but this is a helpful site with lots of people happy to share their experiences. Most of us find the waiting the worst, it's a bit easier when we know what we are facing and what our medical advisers are proposing. One step at a time is a very good approach, you can waste a lot of energy worrying and planning about things that don't happen, and conserving your energy for the next step is an important strategy for getting through it all! Best wishes for your appointment on Thursday. 
  • primek's avatar
    primek
    Member
    9 years ago
    Welcome @Nads . How awful for you. Yes the beginning is such a whirlwind and the fears are just awful. I don't think I slept for weeks. Once you see the surgeon the planning begins. Hope all goes well for you and we are here to listen, help and do anything we can. Kath.