Thanks all for your responses
i think there is just so much going on that its driving me nuts. Oncologist has said 4 weeks off work so there is that to be dealt with as well and the 4 weeks will start next Tuesday. So much of me is tied up in my family and work and it feels like I'm failing at both at the moment again stupid but where I am in my head O has also said I will be meeting with psychologist, dietician and exercise physiologist all in this upcoming hospital visit - don't think between tests and meetings and chemo that it is going to be very restful!!!!!
I am having to try to work out how to put me first but when you live with teenagers (2 x 17 and 1 nearly 15 yo) I think I'd be better at negotiating world peace. I want life to be as normal as possible especially the 17 yos as both are in year 11 and doing one year 12 subject so are rapidly coming to the pointy end with another tough year ahead of them for next year.