Newly diagnosed

Dear @Louise64,
Take some deep breaths. I'm a few months ahead of you. We have fantastic health care in Australia, staffed by smart, kind people. You will be well taken care of.
Best wishes. x

BC has such terrible timing doesn't it?

I waited till I had a few more facts and my treatment plan before I told my daughter, I just wanted to be able to answer questions calmly.  However she lives in the same state and I could see her anytime, must be so hard when you are living in different states.
  
Like you I told my sisters as one has had BC and I knew I could count on her for guidance.  The other is also very supportive.

After the surgeon visit you will know a lot more which may make that decision easier or maybe when you see your daughter you will feel the timing is right. 
 
Congratulations on your new grandson and good luck with the surgery.

Dear @Louise64
I would have suggested wait until you know a bit more to tell your daughter - just as you are in a whirlwind of appointments and emotions, she will be just as preoccupied with the needs of a newborn and her own changed world. But that’s very hard if you are visiting, much easier time n the phone. Just make sure she has some support too, it’s hard for everyone. If you can give her some clear factual information at that time, it may help. Is your father close by and living at home? My mother was in her late 80s, interstate and in care, so I had staff to talk to. As she was physically frail but perfectly mentally alert, they strongly advised to let her know and to be part of it all, which she responded to very well after the initial shock (no cancer at all in our family). Timing for a bc diagnosis is never great, and as you will recognise, family may react in very different ways. Best wishes whatever you decide and for your surgery and treatment. 

*Sorry- it’s my daughter I need to tell. I fly down to see baby this week.