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SueD
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2 years ago

Newly Diagnosed

Hi Everyone,

I was called on Friday afternoon to be told that the lump which I found is actually a high grade invasive ductal carcinoma. Although I did think that it may have been a cancer, I was floored when the doctor spoke those words out loud. I really didn't hear much else after that except that she would make me an appointment for Monday to talk about where we go from here. The biopsy results were rushed back due to the aggressive nature of the cancer they have found. I also had a biopsy taken from two lymph nodes that looked suspicious (these results are not back yet but it is on the same side as the cancer and doesn't look good). My lump is 3cm. 
I will say that I am terrified. I am trying to be strong but have waves were I do not feel strong at all. I am normally quite the positive person. My sister keeps telling me to be positive, but it feels difficult with so many variables (what stage will it be, has it metastasized, etc...). The breast surgeon I have been referred to doesn't have appointments until December, although she does triage so based on that diagnosis I may get in earlier.
It is so scary waiting on all the results. I will no doubt now need to get scans to see if it has travelled to other parts of my body. 
I had to tell my family on the weekend, including my 15 year old son, that was hard.
Does it get easier? How do you stay positive? 
I seem to go to sleep and then I wake with a jolt of realisation. 
I hope to talk to many of you on this journey. You are certainly the ones that will understand after having this experience yourself. It certainly sounds like something that you cannot go alone.

Sue.

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  • Thanks @MillyMolly for your reassurances. You will have to let me know how you go when you meet the oncologist. Good luck and we can certainly share our journeys, I would like that. It does feel slightly better already, connecting with people that are experiencing similar situations (as we all are here no doubt). 
  • Hello Sue. I must have been a long weekend for you and I am so sorry to hear you are in this situation. My situation is exactly the same, diagnosed exactly one week before you, same size tumour and with 3 lymph nodes impacted. I am still in a state of shock. What you are experiencing is totally the same as me- I especially recognise the jolt awake as I remember the facts and then the panic. What I can say if that things are moving fast, with results from the pet scan already back and I’ll be meeting with an oncologist and the surgeon this week. I imagine your case will gather speed too. I am not really sure that I can help much except to say that you are not alone. This forum has been amazing for me in the early hours, just to read messages from inspiring women who fight battles and still help others. Stay in touch, it would be good to share each others journeys.
  • Thanks Jennyss and best wishes back to you 😊
  • Dear @SueD,
    Others will have more information for you than me, so I will just say

    from jennyss in Western NSW