AFraser and Arpie have said it well,
Sorry for your recent diagnosis. It is an anxious time. Writing questions down is a great idea. I do it before most Dr's appointments. Taking someone with you is great too, as they may remember what you do not. I'm not sure if recording is allowed, you should probably ask first. Given that you say your treatment is extensive, you will keep on getting questions. Keep a piece of paper handy.
There is more than order for treatment. Sometimes Chemo is first. You won't know this until you see the surgeon, probably.
I had great Doctors, who told me everything I needed.
There was no Breast Care Nurse (there doesn't seem to be many of them in SA)
Things to consider:
-You may be offered an Infusaport. It is a Port inserted in your upper chest to give IV access for taking bloods and giving Chemo. I had one and recommend it. Some people have a PICC line, for IV access.
-Consider trying the Cold Cap for Chemo. You may be able to keep most of your hair. I used it and can tell you more later if needed.
-If you have Income Protection Insurance, and you wish to use it, you should start the paperwork ASAP
There is usually a waiting period.
- Ask the Dr's for copies of blood tests, scans etc. It is amazing how often they can be handy.
Once you know more, you may feel better having a plan.
I hope that I haven't caused you any additional stress.