Newly Diagnosed

Please know that there are places you can go to put in complaints. It doesn't have to be now, but document everything, and keep a record of the sort of things that are said to you. Get names wherever possible. All public hospitals should have a charter of your rights and responsibilities , and theirs. This should be readily available to you. A version of it should be on their website.  They should also have someone you can go to if you have concerns about your treatment or some aspect of your care - being called a sook, for instance. If you get no satifaction from them, each state has something called a Healthcare Complaints Commission,  or something similar. Unfortunately this takes a degree of strength and resilience that you may not feel that you have at present. As I said earlier, do it when you feel ready.
No one should be told they have no pain threshold, they can't feel your pain, they shouldn't judge it!!
I'm embarrassed to call myself a nurse at the moment, if that's the way members of my profession have treated you. 
Take care

How on earth can a nurse call you a sook or even that it's your fault you've not healed. Where is the compassion , the understanding? Dreadful. Dreadful . Dreadful. How dare they make you feel like you do. Did you ask for cancer? Did you ask for any of this? Fingers crossed for you @shann this works and hope someone there in that hospital understands what you're going through. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

If I had the money to go to this private dr I would but unfortunately that is not an option.  Thank you all for your kind words I appreciate all of them.  Yes it would be nice if the dr got on here and read what we are really going through and how we are feeling they really don't listen or they just offer you a councilor and thing that is the answer.  But anyway I will keep going and have all fingers crossed that this will work this time. xx

There are really times when I hope that surgeons and oncologists monitor this site as guests (and other times I hope they don't). Hearing what you're saying makes me wish there was someone in the field reading what you've written and understanding just what you're having to go through. I still think that your surgeon should be reported to the medical board and if that is the culture of the hospital, it is appalling. I am so sorry that you're having to deal with that on top of what is hard enough anyway.

This is difficult in the public system as there is only a few doc that do this at ** hospital and they all talk.  The nurses tell me I have a reputation as I don't heal and have no pain threshold anymore and they all call me a sook. Dr says its my fault I don't heal, in other words they don't have a reason or a reason why I am not healing.  I just have to keep proding along and just hope for the best. The private dr wanted $10 000 to do it but i just can't afford that when finances are not good.  I will stay strong and but do have my dark days when I just feel like giving up. I will be on and off on here and give a yell when I am on.  xx

Dear @shann, Best wishes for your recovery from your recent surgery. And best wishes on the financial front. Lack of money = big worry, I know.

I agree. I truly hope it heals and quite frankly I wouldn't let him touch me again. Hope the money issues have improved. There are plenty  more public surgeons out there that  have more compassion in there  little finger than he does. 

Omg the EGO of that surgeon. Utter utter rubbish. Sack him. I 100% agree with @Sister, comprehensively unprofessional and totally reportable.

You get to be treated with care, consideration and kindness. You have every right to expect any doctor to do their best to heal you. For him to say something like that to you makes my blood boil.

Your determination, persistence and bravery is inspiring @Shann. I will keep my fingers crossed for you. K xox

Completely unprofessional and needs to be reported. Any doctor should be open to a second opinion - they're not bloody gods, after all (although some seem to think they are). And saying that to you is absolutely beyond the pale.
My thoughts are with you both for healing and for your financial situation.

He sounds like a complete twat. Hopefully a bit of peer review has smartened his act up.
He has no idea what any other surgeon in the world will, or will not do. That's just trash talk, get rid of him
Fingers crossed things work better this time. Xxx