Hi @Suzie82,
Great advice from all the ladies here. You are not alone here.
It is a big shock for sure. I had a grade 3 cancer cells. It means that they grew quickly so it's termed aggressive but it is not a death sentence. My cancer was 2cm in the right breast. I had a lumpectomy and chemo, radium and now I take tamoxifen. I was diagnosed 30 April and had 4 months of chemo and 19 days of radium. I had nothing in my lymph.
It is such a ride emotionally and such a shock. Glad you had your friend with you. Support is important.
A couple of tips from me:
* exercise is great if you can. It really helps on a number of levels. It helped me get through chemo and radium and it helps with the stress and fatigue of it all
* drink plenty water
* take care of your skin. Chemo is so drying
* mouth washes with salty water after every meal during chemo and use dental floss to help no mouth ulcers
* prepare a few meals to freeze for when you are not up to cooking
*ask for help from friends with housework and meals, driving you etc
* learn to mediate or practice mindfulness. It all helps.
* stay in touch with everyone here. We are all at various stages of treatment or beyond and this is a great place for support.