Hi @GavinCh,
I commend you on the support, care and love you are able to give and share, with your wife.
Not all of us have partners/husbands and are doing this 'on our own'. I divorced in 2001, and brought up my two beautiful daughters with no family help and working full time, since they were 3 and 1. They are now 24 and 21.
I still work full time, as I have to financially. I sometimes feel a bit envious of others who have the close support from a partner, not to mention perhaps another income, but of course, we all walk our own path, and I am so lucky to have my daughters and amazing friends.
So those with kind and supportive partners (and friends), cherish them!