That's a shame you got an infection, @sunrise_sunset - I hope the ABs kick in & hit it on the head.
With your previous cancer history and now being told your BC is aggressive - yep - biting the bullet & going with the chemo would be the smart thing to do I reckon xx.
I am sure the ladies who've had your 'regime' will jump on & give you tips xx
Fantastic that your physiotherapist has been so pivotal in referring you both times (and picking up your infection!) and helped you so much thru your first cancer too. xx She sounds like a keeper! ;)
Re Breast Care Nurses .... sometimes private patients do 'miss out' on being referred - tho my surgeon (I went private too) had a resident nurse (who wasn't an actual BC Nurse) ... she answered a couple of early questions (about getting onto the surgeon's list & pricing) but didn't really 'backup' much with post op help! At the time, the 'local' BC Nurse position was vacant where I live (regional NSW) so there was no backup there either. BCNA became my saviour for SO much info & support, as everyone here has 'been there, done that', so KNOW what you're going thru! ;)
Whereabouts do you live (roughly - you can add the town/city to your Profile & members may be able to direct you to known services in your area. ....). You can also jump onto the McGrath Foundation site & go to your area & see who is available ..... contact them & you should be able to hook up with one xx
https://www.mcgrathfoundation.com.au/get-support/find-a-nurse/I hope you have lots of support during your chemo treatment ... maybe consider cooking up some of your favourite meals & freezing them in smallish portions, so if you can't be bothered cooking during your treatment .... you can just pull one out & bingo! ;)
take care & all the best xx