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Hi @Dessi  you are not alone! I am a mum of 4, had surgery in May, and know exactly how you feel. Self care is the game! If someone else can do it, let them. Say yes to any offers of help. Rest when you need. Cry when you need. Do what makes you feel better - binge watch netflix, sleep, rest. Whatever it is. I am on hormone blockers (Letrozole and zoladex). There's lot's on here about that but also take with grain of salt. I am managing them quite well. I am on venlafaxine (efexor) to manage hot flushes. The rest of the symptoms are not too problematic (noticeable but manageable). Listen to BCNA podcasts, especially the ones with Dr Charlotte Tottman, they really helped me enormously. Oh and audiobooks were my friend post op when I just felt to s*$t to read or even watch tv. What I discovered as a highly functional organised self motivated working mum of 4, is that this is the hardest thing I have face, and no amount of self talk made things improve any quicker, what I needed was time and support. I am now 2.5 months post op and I have been doing some jogging, gym through the hospital twice weekly and feel mostly very good. I walked very short distances first few days I was home, literally about 800m (tried to do twice daily) and then increased slowly. I am now doing interval jogs. It gets better.

I do notice emotional and cognitive fatigue mostly now, I take a LOT more time to rest (not filling my calendar with everyone who wants to see me for coffee. On this I follow my gut, if you want to have coffee with the girl friends, have coffee. If not, then don't. If you say yes and then feel not up to it, then cancel. You are number 1 at the moment. Year 12 is a tricky time. I can't help with that one.

Massive hugs. Wishing you all the best.