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Keeping family and friends informed
Hi everyone, Another newbie - routine mammogram in mid Oct, biopsy then diagnosed Nov 21 with invasive ductal carcinoma (13mm). Surgery planned for Jan 2 - lumpectomy with sentinel node biopsy then r...
I told my immediate family (my 89 year old mother only when I could do
so in person not by phone, she lived interstate) and my work colleagues. The rest took care of itself - my neighbour when I ran into her after getting my very short haircut (turned out she’d had bc ten years earlier) and so forth. Friends when and If appropriate. Most passed the information on but as it was second hand, it didn’t occasion too many well intentioned but repetitious conversations. As I looked well and continued a normal schedule, it was a bit of a nine days wonder which was fine by me. As far as I was concerned, it was neither a secret nor a news event. People will mostly respond to the tone you set, so choose whatever suits you best.
so in person not by phone, she lived interstate) and my work colleagues. The rest took care of itself - my neighbour when I ran into her after getting my very short haircut (turned out she’d had bc ten years earlier) and so forth. Friends when and If appropriate. Most passed the information on but as it was second hand, it didn’t occasion too many well intentioned but repetitious conversations. As I looked well and continued a normal schedule, it was a bit of a nine days wonder which was fine by me. As far as I was concerned, it was neither a secret nor a news event. People will mostly respond to the tone you set, so choose whatever suits you best.