Impact on kids

@Sooz oh of course! This is such an individual journey, you should always do what you feel is right for yourself and your loved ones 💕

@StarGirl my 3 year old knows I had surgery and that's all. I am a useless liar and I felt like I wouldn't be able to hide the truth from my 8 year old. She would just want to know why I was so stressed. I get what you are saying completely but for me it was the right thing to do...I think :) 

@StarGirl I can see their young ages helping with keeping it hidden, but still, amazing!

Thanks @kmakm, maybe mine are just especially self-absorbed 🤣. They were so young when I was diagnosed and started chemo - only 3 and 5 - so we just didn’t say anything and made sure their routine stayed the same. They were older for the surgery and radiotherapy but we just pass off hospital visits as work trips and do everything possible during school hours. No one at their school knows, so no dramas. 

I have no idea how you managed that! But if it worked for your family and you, it's not really anyone elses' business. Well done for following through and being true to yourself. K xox

This seems not to be a popular move but my children are 7 and 9. Told them nothing. Did chemo, surgery and radiotherapy and they didn’t notice so no stress for them. I honestly don’t understand why people tell kids.

So glad your daughter agreed to her teacher knowing what was happening.  Being a teacher myself you notice when a child's behaviour changes suddenly and the first thing you think is what's happened at home. As i said before they will be able to keep a quiet eye on her and give her the support and understanding she needs in her school environment.

It will be baby steps but so important that she feels she's with you through this rather than shut out.  I have been amazed at the support my kids have given me.

Thanks so much for the advice. I have been honest with her - once we knew I didn't need chemo we told her I had cancer. She has agreed that I can tell her teacher and a nurse today told me to tell her to write her feelings down so she liked that idea. Baby steps! Thanks again

I finished treatment a couple of years ago my children were 13 and 14 ,daughter 13 ,we have always been very close,and because I struggled so much with diagnosis i found it hard to talk about,of course I told them about it and treatment but I probably should have discussed more looking back as I tried to put on positivity all the time,but they knew things were different.people in the street came up concerned a hugging me and stuff like that so it was obviously something wrong,she would have noticed.I finished treatment in the March and realised my daughter was struggling and anxious .anyway I think looking back I wish I had discussed it more openly with her,although at time I was just struggling to keep myself going.in last year an a half as she got older she has asked me questions and made comments that made me realise she was struggling too during that time,thankfully she seems well now and happy,it’s such a hard time and knowing what’s best,xxxx best wishes.