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tamazahriel
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6 years ago

I’m so lost

Hi all, I am newly diagnosed with Breast Cancer. I am 34 years old and I have 3 children- 9,8 and 4. Because I have been in shock for about a month and the stress of it all has got me lost. The doctor who gave me my results seemed to just be ticking boxes when he showed me my plan. He did not explain the hormone receptor test and what it all means. All I know is that I am positive with all 3 receptors and I am a grade 3. I’ve just been told that I need surgery and depending on the surgery- If it isn’t good I’ll be heading to chemo but if it is ok it’s radiotherapy. I feel so lost. I was just bombarded with so much information that I do not even understand it all and to make matters worse, I tend to freeze when I hit a stressful situation :( sorry for the long post. Just wanted to talk about it 
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    tamazahriel
    Member
    6 years ago
    Thank you so much afraser :) I think I needed that reassurance. Appreciate it more than you know :) thank you 
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    Afraser
    Member
    6 years ago
    It’s like being spoken to in a language you simply don’t understand at first - combination of shock, fear and denial. Utterly ‘normal’ and completely confusing. Particularly with young children in the picture. It can help to take a friend or unflappable relative with you for discussions with your medical team, someone who can remember or write down what is said but also ask questions on your behalf if required. Others on this site will have some good advice about telling your children and letting them know, in appropriate ways, what’s going on. Chemo isn’t fun but for many it’s doable and not as bad as they had feared. Important thing is to feel confident about your medical team and the advice they are giving - to feel that way, you need to be able to talk to them about your feelings and your questions. It does get easier as you have a clear plan about treatment. Hard as it is to see the good side,  your bc has been found and it can be treated. This is a good place to ask questions (none are silly) and to let your feelings out safely. Best wishes.